It’s been only a week since we met in-person, and two dates, but I’m [31M] infatuated with her [33F]. We hit it off on our first date. On the second date, she made a move to sit close next to me, but I didn’t reciprocate. I just felt out of it that day — I was a little sick, I hadn’t eaten, the beer didn’t sit well with me, it was too loud and I had to shout and don’t have a loud voice, I was tired, the sun was in my eyes, etc. — and I recently got out of a five-year relationship and totally forgot how to flirt.
Now, just two dates in, she wants to have a talk about what we’re looking for (which we already touched on the first date!) and how we’re feeling about each other. I’m assuming the worst — that she’s just not feeling attraction towards me, doesn’t want to lead me on, and thinks we’d be better off as friends, and she likes me enough to tell me in-person rather than over text. We set up some time in a few days after work in the afternoon to talk about this in a few days in-person instead of over text.
Every other sign says that she is into me so far, or at least likes me a lot, as far as I can tell. I’m also thinking about things from her side. I’ve been treating her like a friend. Maybe she thinks I might not be into her and wants some clarity?
I keep thinking about just texting her how I feel / what I want so I can resolve this ASAP instead of waiting until Wednesday, or changing the date / meeting place to be drinks on Friday at a more date-y spot than the one she chose, seemingly out of convenience for me.
Any thoughts would be helpful. Thanks.
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I think you may be overthinking a bit.
Imo, you have nothing to worry about.
If she wasn’t feeling it, why would she want to talk about it later? She probably is in the same boat as you (cautiously optimistic), so don’t go assuming the worst.