Hello, im 19(M) tried to have sex with my gf (19). I didnt had sex for 3 years. I was scared of sex because i always camed to fast. I was embarassed of this thing so i didnt had gf and didnt had sex for 3 years. Now i have gf we tried to have sex and i came while were trying just to put it in. Well we laughed that off but when we tried to have round 2. For me it was terrible, when i put on condom, my penis went soft it got me stressed and nervous, i tried to make it hard again, but i was very anxious and stressed because it went soft. My gf told its okay, i need to relax. But for me it was impossible because while i got soft i thought that i might have ED, when i came while i was trying to put in i thought that i have PE.
I was stressed out, because my penis felt very sensitive but at the same time it felt like it was not hard enough.
But i pleasured her with my fingers what i was always doing for 3 years with other partners, i was afraid of having sex as i said, so i always pleasured females with fingers or by eating them out.
But im afraid i dont understand, it looks like my penis is broken, it looks like it cant get hard enough compared how it got hard last year.
So i dont understand where is the problem?
Is it in my head?
Or is it some health problems?
Im thinking of visiting doctors to try and search for the problem.
Im really afraid, i really want to pleasure my gf. And at the same time as a man this problem is HUGE EGO KILLER for me.
I want to feel good about my self.
Edit: or is it just Flatline?
Strange thing i stopped watching porn and then finded my self a gf
Last time i watched it was about 2months ago.
So is it just Flatline?
Is it my body just trying to recover from this strange phenomeo
3 comments
It’s mostly in your mind. It’s completly normal that your dick isnt 100% hard all the time during sex and you’re not a machine. You definitly dont have ED, you’re far to young. Just try to relax more, take some breaks, perhabs pleasure her first to increase your Ego and cum in her mouth ?
It’s almost certainly because of anxiety, but it’s a good idea to see a doctor just in case. Anxiety is the ultimate boner-killer, and you have tons of it. You need to work with your partner to lower your anxiety in bed. Take things slow, do oral and fingers, massage, and other relaxing intimate things. Get as comfortable as you can with your partner sexually over a period of weeks and months, not days. It’s just something you have to work on. The doctor might even prescribe medication, if you really need it. Just remember, you aren’t the first guy to have these problems, and you can overcome them like many others have, with patience and work.
> Is it in my mind or is it real deal?
Both.
> Or is it some health problems?
Somatic conditions causing ED happens but it is very rare: diabetes, certain heart and circulatory issues.
99% of the time, it is just your head, messing with you.
ED drugs like Cialis will help you out perfectly well, if you don’t feel like waiting for it to go away on its own, which may take several weeks.