What changed in you after your divorce?

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1. My ability to trust anyone but myself

2. I am so much happier. Love being on my own. I should have done it years earlier.

3. Me. I did a boat load of therapy, unlearned some unhealthy behavior patterns, learned how to avoid abusive people, and generally grew a lot as a person.

4. What changed in me was the emergence of self-love, self compassion and confidence.

5. I realize that my ex had massive toxic boundary issues which just triggered everything I thought I left behind with my childhood trauma. I was exercising proper boundaries whether his family appreciated me or not

6. It was like a weight was lifted off my shoulders. I was happier, less anxious, etc.

7. My health. I’m so much healthier than I was when I was married. Weight gone, meds gone, anxiety and depression gone.

   No one is stressing me out. I have time to take care of myself. My ex was more work and stress than my kids have ever been.