I’ve been dating this amazing girl (20yrs) for five months now, i (23 yrs) feel happy and everything is utopically perfect. The only thing that makes me uncomfortable is that she and her ex are very close friends. My gf barely talk about her when she’s around me and when she says “i hung out with a friend” instead saying their name, like she usually does, i know she’s talking about her ex. I normally wouldn’t care coz my gf has told me that she doesn’t feel anything for her ex, but when the three uf us are around at the same time my gf behave completely diferent, she gets cold with me and only pays attention to her ex. Her ex is a very cool person, but she’s also very territorial with my gf and I’m the complete opposite since i don’t feel the need to be that childish.
I don’t wanna tell my gf coz i don’t wanna create a conflict or make her feel like she has to choose a side.
My intuition tells me that they’re going to back together when we broke up, and all the things that i see between them are the proof. It hurts to see that bacause i’ve never been more in love before, but still don’t wanna start a fight that will end with my gf telling me “we’re just friends”.
I would like to read experiences like mine to know how they end.
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If she prioritizes the ex over you when all 3 hang out, then yeah, this is a dead end for you. You can always feel the truth of someone’s feelings in those in person dynamics – body language, attention, deference, etc – what you describe sounds like a real problem to me. A normal person would put extra effort into making their SO feel prioritized if an ex was around, that’s just being a baseline considerate person who is thinking about their SO. To do the opposite tells you who’s opinion she cares most about: she is more invested in what her ex thinks than what her SO thinks
Okay. Her being in contact with her ex-, for me personally, sounds bad but every people’s choice but the fact that she acts cold towards you when you all 3 are together is bad for sure. It sounds like she is either embarrassed of you or she has two faces, one face faking. Either way, it’s very disrespectful towards you and you should talk with her about it. No relationship is without argument, note that. Your feelings matter. So talk with her about, how you feel and what you don’t like about this all. Then post update. Don’t want to scare you and I understand how in love you are but it’s better to be alone than with a person who either plays with you or fakes around you
Run away.
I would just hell no the fuck out of there. I dated a girl who’s best friend was a dude she “dated but worked better with as friends” she’d defend him and spends nights in the car with him.
She was a cheater anyway so good riddance
Bro leave her I went through the same things she keep him around for flings and whatever else find you someone who can prioritize you and don’t want to hang around people they fucked before
My ex is my best friend. Weve never hung out with a so with the other there.
Go with your gut feeling. It’s a feeling for a reason.
So she was a lesbian?