This is a throwaway account. My partner and I have been together for years, and although we can get each other off separately, we haven’t figured out how to make intercourse pleasurable for both of us. My partner has never found vaginal penetration pleasurable, and only enjoys clitoral stimulation. To clarify this isn’t a situation where she can’t orgasm from vaginal penetration only, but rather that she doesn’t seem to find it stimulating at all. During intercourse, I try to ensure that she can enjoy it too with clitoral stimulation, but it takes focus and it feels that only one of us can enjoy sex at once. She previously had what we believed was vaginismus, and I think she’s mostly overcome it with the use of dilators. We have tried adding toys, but it seems like my partner only enjoys the vibrator. It’s frustrating because I want us both to enjoy it, and I sometimes feel unwanted sexually because of it.
Are there any tips or suggestions for making intercourse pleasurable for both partners? Has anyone else experienced this and resolved it?
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Is she feeling pain form the Vaginitis? Otherwise it slunds like the pain/uncomfort is a larger issue. If yes you need to get ba doctor to “fix” the issue. I know this may to be available to you. Otherwise a gyno is needed to diagonse what the discomfort is.
I hate to day it but the 3rd option is a lack of foreplay or attraction, which I personally understand too well and prefer to not speak about.
Maybe try /r/pussyjobs if you haven’t already.
Do you try to use it with the toy instead of alone, or you can lead him to use the toy to stimulate his clit and you do the penetrative motion.
You probably can’t. It’s not that rare for women to only find pleasure in clitoral stimulation.
Everyone is built different. She’s normal.