hi! throwaway because this is really embarrassing. i recently turned 20, so for my birthday i got myself one of those dual action vibrators. it works fine, the only problem is that no matter how hard i try i cant actually get it in me. im a virgin and ive always been really tight, so im still really new to vaginal penetration, and still struggle with getting stuff up there comfortably. most of the time i just power through and slowly inch it up, but it just leaves me in a lot of pain. does the pain eventually stop? should i be trying something else? sorry if this is a silly question and this is the wrong place to post this
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Well. Eventually it should go in, do you have lube?
Get yourself a pH balanced water based lube which is safe for use with silicone. My favourite is yes water based lube. I wouldn’t ever use my internal toys without lube. But also try using just the outside section first on your clit to get you as wet as possible as well as putting lube on the toy. Go slow and relax into it!
Same thing happened with me! I used dilators bc absolutely nothing would fit inside of me until I got those. And even with them I had to take my time to get up to the biggest size. I also use ky lube. It’s water based and super good!
I highly recommend trying to use your fingers at first too loosen things up first. Make sure Get your self good and horny so your in the right mindset and finger your self one at a time till your at the size of the toy. Then lube up and enjoy.. otherwise you may wanna find a smaller toy to start with or to be used as a stepping stone till your at the proper size. I had a ex who was beyond tight and we had to do this for years.. Hope this helps ya out some..
Lube is great and it may also help if you do a gentle “pushing out” motion, as if you’re trying to push out some pee, as you try to insert the toy. This seems paradoxical but it may actually help as it relaxes the muscles- people also “push out” their anus before anal sometimes