After we had sex, he asked why I always give him BJs. He said I always go down on him whenever things got hot. He doesn’t need to ask. In fact, he never has.
I didn’t know how to elaborate my reply, I just told him I enjoyed blowjobs. He’s curious why and said it’s a very rare. I never thought much about it, I had always loved blowjobs and I can get off more easily watching BJ porn compared to PIV. Where does place me as a sexual partner?
If I had to chose between BJ or PIV, I would always chose BJs. Blowing him kneeling down is my favourite position. It feels like he has power over me and I’m there to service him. When we’re alone, he wouldn’t have to ask me before I get down on my knees for him.
He asked me to call him ‘master’ for the first time during a BJ today. For some reasons, I really liked the idea and just blurted out ‘yes master’. He called me a ‘good girl’ and patted my head like he always does and then proceeded to fucked my mouth. Once he pulled out, I looked into his eyes and asked “Am I a good girl master? Did you enjoy my service just now?”. He said I was being a very good girl but could be better. Before I had time to ask him, he started fucking my face for a few more minutes before blowing his load down my throat. He held my head there while he came. I was so turned on I could swear I was getting wet from blowing him. We took a small break before we had sex, which ended with him pulling out and blowing his load in my mouth again.
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I am also one that loves giving BJ’s and I do it every time I am with my partner. Sometimes even after we start the intercourse and switch positions, I will give him a little more. I can actually have an orgasm giving him oral, so it benefits me as well! He’s a lucky man to have a woman like you that loves doing it! You’re not strange though, there’s many of us that love giving our man pleasure!
It depends on the person. As with all sexual preferences, some people would see it as a dealbreaker, and some people don’t even fancy them. I’m also a big fan of them but in more of a dominant way. I absolutely love the feeling of power that comes with seeing someone who’s usually put together squirming and pleading. I think I would be bummed if my partner didn’t like them, but as long as we found something that worked, it probably wouldn’t be a dealbreaker.
For a lot of guys it’s important. Like oral is important for a lot woman too I would assume. On the other hand we never met anyone who likes to receive oral but is unwilling to give. However my wife enjoys giving head as much as she loves it when I go down on her. For us it’s a very important part of foreplay and even in between position changes.
Your bf is 1 Lucky MF & he is correct about it not being common for most women to like & enjoy giving a bj! Most of the time, men gotta ask for the service, and when it happens, it’s usually just OK because they don’t wanna do it. Then get mad when we ask for a better service. But then they expect us to be great at eatin pussy or it’s gonna be a problem. Luckily for women I enjoy eatin pussy & she won’t have to ask for it because I’ll just do it! In my experience if someone just does something that you like or enjoy. There are usually 2 reasons & sometimes they are both the reason why. (1) they want to make you feel really special because they really find you sexy, really like you, love you, and/or etc. (2) because they really enjoy it too and you are the lucky beneficiary!
My wife loves giving blowjobs and handjobs. She told me as a young teen she fantasized about it constantly. She basically has a penis fetish. About half of my previous girlfriends would go down on me, but, not with the frequency and enthusiasm that my wife has.
Your boyfriend is 20. He doesn’t have enough experience to know if it’s rare or not. Not sure where he’s getting this idea. Blowjobs are pretty normal in sex and not rare at all for people to enjoy giving them.
You just sound like you have a very specific submission kink in that you want him to feel in control of you and have power over you.
I never understand when I hear people say that women enjoying blowjobs is “rare” since that hasn’t been my experience at all!
All of my long term partners have loved it. And out of the 30+ female sexual partners I’ve had in my life, only maybe 2 have been unenthusiastic. Sure, some of those were kink relationships or hookups where I knew what they were into beforehand, but the majority we didn’t discuss our sexual proclivities before hopping into bed together.
So either I’m extraordinarily lucky, or these guys who have never met a woman who enjoys giving head are extraordinarily unlucky!
I personally feel they’re important but I’m currently married to someone who NEVER gives one. I’ve asked, I’ve begged, I’ve talked about how I feel it’s important and I’m willing to work up to it, but no! I still happily go down on her because I enjoy giving and providing her immense pleasure.
I agree, based on my anecdotal evidence, that a woman who enjoys giving is rare. Yes there’s plenty of BJ porn but there’s also a ton of women (here and in real life) who refuse to even try.
I get that it’s not ice cream, but I’d happily eat my own cum if that was a requirement. I make sure to keep myself trimmed/shaved and clean just in case it happens some day…unlikely after 20 years but hope springs eternal I guess.
Ooh what a lucky man he was !!
43m married for 22 years. Just recently discovered much of what I thought about my wife and her likes and dislikes has been wrong. I always thought she would go down on me because she knows I like it. Also there are so many examples in porn where it’s suggested or obvious the woman doesn’t like it and so that becomes the normal thought. We started sex therapy to work on guilt and shame issues from religion and I discovered she actually really likes going down on me and it turns her on.
This has made me relax a lot more and enjoy it rather than using it as a way to get hard and lubricate for the main event.
Wow I am so jealous of all of you.
Seriously your partner is 20yo he has about 10 minutes in real time experience, of course you’re a rare find. What are you his 1st or 2nd human he’s had sex with?
At 20, you have absolutely no idea what’s rare or common. Pleeeeeeeenty of people love pleasuring their partners regularly.
Some people just love oral. That’s me. Giving and getting is a huge turn on. All oral: If I’m in her and about to blow, and she tongue kisses me it’s like a 3x orgasm. I love a tongue in my mouth when I’m cumming.
I think since I’m so oral that BJs are super important. I have a friend whose wife is disgusted by oral and that would be a no-go for my sexuality. However she loves sex and he’s very happy. I’d almost do only oral 1/2 the time because I love it so much.
If it fits you and your sexuality, then go for it.
There’ll definitely be exceptions, but I think it’s fair to say that, for the most part, men consider oral sex important.
And yeah, it’s pretty rare for a woman to actually enjoy giving head. There’s that “we call eating out ‘eating out’ because it’s a privilege, and we call blowjobs ‘blowjobs’ because they’re a chore” phrase we always hear.
But yeah your bf is a lucky man, good to know he appreciates you 😉
I’m not taking a 20 year old guys advice or wisdom on anything.
My wife of 19 years loves it. She also fingers my ass during a bj which is great
BJs are EXTREMELY important for relationships. Going down on your partner is something you do that is primarily focused on pleasuring the other person. It demonstrates love, care, attention, intimacy, attraction, etc.
I find that ppl who DON’T go down on their partner (and I’m gonna include “lazy oral” here, too – cuz *enthusiasm* is equally important) are often much more selfish and self centered (as demonstrated by NOT focusing on an act that pleases the partner).
In my experience, it IS pretty rare to find someone who is not only WILLING to give BJs, but ACTUALLY gives them, enthusiastically and without asking, for any decent length of time.
It’s very important I’ve been with girls that’s loved giving head and were eager to please me. And my gf rn doesn’t really enjoy it so much. It’s more of a one way street she wants everything from me but doesn’t seem to enjoy giving me pleasure and it’s a massive game changer forsure. I don’t really like it when women are lazy, getting on all fours or laying on their back with legs up is basically all they do. It’s the hottest thing ever when your woman is eager to please you
From what I can tell it is pretty rare for women to love giving head. I’m with you OP. I like most of the foreplay to be for my partner. And I love sucking dick.
There’s nothing wrong with us, but yeah, it’s not super common. We get our pleasure from serving
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🤣🤣🤣 clearly, I have gotten under your skin! I do apologize for that. I didn’t say I was doing it so I could get it in return. It is a NEED of mine & in true fairness, I give it really good. Yes I expect to receive it really good, if not it will be a problem for the relationship. It is not unreasonable to want to receive the best from your partner, especially in this category. I will say you have made my day calling me “a walking red flag” 🤣 The only type of flag that I have is a Freak Flag & I waive it proudly! I absolutely 💙 women & enjoy watching y’all lose control of yourselves during climax! I would imagine that feeling feels amazing? I’m just asking for an equivalent feeling, that’s it. For enough women that is asking for too much 😪
Lol he’s 20 what does he know?
I don’t think it’s rare. I think it just depends on your partner. I was in a relationship for 4 years with a guy that I didn’t really like doing it to. It didn’t smell or was unhygienic, he wasn’t big, it was pretty easy to get down. But our sex life in general was pretty lame. We definitely weren’t matched sexually. I just thought I didn’t like to do it. I would always give excuses. Like: “I just ate”, “my jaw hurts”, “I’m not in the mood”…
I love doing it to my partner now. I fantasize about it.
Truly I believe it just depends on who you’re with.
He ain’t wrong
I love eating pussy so to me it’s important for my partner to enjoy giving me head as well.
You’re setting this poor fella up for a lifetime of regret! All I’m saying is if y’all are like the rest of us, you’ll probably move on from him in the future. If he gets a gal in his next relationship that isn’t so into giving BJ’s, he’s going to fantasize about you most indubitably.
My ex, (we were married for 29 years) gave me a BJ 3 times during that span, AND didn’t like me going south of the border on her either. 4 years ago, I married the love of my life and got 3 BJ’s on our wedding night! (No sex before we got married…) And I’ve gotten to perfect my craft of going down on her as well. The point is, enjoy it while you can. Hopefully he treats you well by being a good Master and reciprocating those good deeds for you!
In my case, they are very important as I’m very used to being with ‘cock worshippers’ that hunger and yearn to see, touch, smell, taste, examine, and service my member. Like EVERY SINGLE woman I’ve ever been with. I thoroughly enjoy this behavior from them. Generally they’ve told me they enjoy that I’m an extreme ‘grower’. I can literally go from as small as .75 of an inch to just over 9 inches when correctly aroused with the girth of just less than a standard plastic water bottle. I’ve also been lucky enough to have had partners that enjoyed sucking on me until I came in their mouth and they’d swallow which for me, is an ultimate pleasure physically, visually, and emotionally.
The problem is this. My current fiance never initiates fellatio and I always need to ask for it which is a first EVER for me. This on it’s own kills my confidence and causes both confusion as well as resentment but on top of having to ask, she will suck on me for MAYBE a minute to two minutes max leaving me completely and utterly unsatisfied. It almost feels like it’s a burden on her part.
I’ve asked her about it and told her point blank what I want/need. She blames her self-view (slight weight gain) and menopause, yet makes no effort to address either one.
So, long story short. It is VERY important when your partner is used to a wanted need being met. The lack of prioritizing my desires and needs by her is leaving me passionless and affecting my sex drive as well.
She’s sexually ruining me.
I enjoy it. I’ve learned to enjoy it more as I get older. Can’t explain why exactly I like it, it’s just a sensation and an act that brings me pleasure too.
I love giving blow jobs. I’ll be 40 next year and my man is 30. He knows I’ll never turn down a blow job. All my guy friends tell me he’s a lucky man to have a girlfriend like me lol
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