I’ve (F, Bi) never dated a coworker and it’s not that I’m looking to start.
I’m 6 months out of a serious relationship and I’m looking at coworkers and I find my eyes wandering to them.
I work in battery manufacturing so 80% of the guys are buff-like in the shoulder area and I’m finding myself attracted to this broad shoulder deal. I even lost weight from this job I started 6 months ago.
I’m surprised by my attraction, though. I never really went for looks because I’m not much of a looker my self.
My ex used to say Don’t shit where you eat, which is smart. I get it. He was right about damn near everything.
But there’s several dudes looking at me(which is rediculous rare for me as I’m not very feminine. And I’m beyond flattered) and I feel like I’m tempted to eat the Apple from the No No Tree. Maybe a bite. I don’t know?!
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It’s not a big deal. Tons of people meet at work.
The people who are against it are people who are too delicate to handle rejection.
There’s an old saying. “Don’t shit where you eat.” If things don’t work out, you’re going to be stuck in a very awkward situation each day. I have a friend that did exactly this. She’s a bartender and started secretly seeing another guy that worked behind the bar. He ended up being crazy and controlling and it just ended up making things really weird at work. But hey, I’m assuming you’re an adult. You can do whatever you want.
It’s not only a terrible idea it’s incredibly disrespectful to your employer
For us who run companies we don’t allow coworker dating for a reason and few things will torpedo your advancement quicker than breaking this
Don’t do it!
I guess it depends, but it’s not good to make a habit of it. I don’t normally think about it but I am in a similar situation where it feels like there is some strange tension or anxiety between my coworker and I. I am only open to dating her because we happen to have a significant amount of things in common with each other, all the way down to our personality which is kind of rare for me to experience.
There’s going to be people that you find attractive passing through the workplace fairly often, and that’s not really much to go off of considering the risks involved.
Well, how can you handle being rejected/broken up with? How can your potential partner? Remember that you’d have to see them regularly. If you have this issue under control – godspeed. Not many do though.