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I updated my profile a bit and wanted to get people’s opinions. I have it listed I am not looking to have kids, which I know will result in low matches, but that’s ok, I want to make sure I am putting a semi-decent profile out there.
Also, my story is about me almost missing a transfer while traveling, and jumping off the jetway into the plane so I could make my flight.
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EDIT: Thanks everyone for the advice! It was both humbling and encouraging. I have a few ideas as to where to go from here with your excellent suggestions and see y’all around the sub!
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As a fellow guy, i found 2 things that stand out to me
1) there’s something wrong with your “things we have in common prompt.” The first 2 options (sweet tooth and Halloween) feel sufficiently overlapping, so idk doesnt feel like there’s variety there. The third option is like you wanna say youre an exhibitionist but feel dirty about saying it directly so youve chosen to beat around the bush? Idk feels weird as an option, but also is so striking different from the other 2 (which again are too similar) that its a little whiplashy
2) your pics. Half of them arent selfies, no, but like every picture either is a selfie or is like what would be used if you were being interviewed. Theres only the one that seems candid of you petting the dog. The rest are you posed/taking a selfie. I guess my constructive feedback would be get some more pics of you being caught doing things or otherwise mid activity, or even with friends?
You look great tho and you clearly get out and about.
The content seems fine IMO, however I don’t love your photos.
Your main pic: you’re not looking at the camera and it’s not the most flattering picture, but it’s nice to see you dressed up đ
The photo with the sunglasses and mohawk: I don’t see the point of this picture. It’s too close up, you’re wearing sunglasses so we can’t really see what you look like.
The other photos are okay, but how recent are they? Some look like they could be old compared to your main pic (I’m thinking of the red shirt pic in particular). The last photo with side profile under the fire escape is okay, but I would replace it with a full body pic or some kind of action shot.
None of these photos are really showing personality.
Your photos arenât that good. You look too serious. No big smiles. Just donât come off friendly.
The impression I got was that youâre not very serious about finding a long term relationship, at least for now. If thatâs true for you, then youâre good.
Also I couldnât get much info on what youâre looking for in a partner. Maybe mention what are some of the characteristics you would find attractive.
The last two pictures donât give me any new view on what you look like or what you like to do, so maybe change those. Also the same goes for the picture with the red shirt, but I like that youâre smiling in it so I would say keep it.
(I havenât done dating apps before, this is just my feedback without knowing the custom of the apps!)
Maybe I don’t take my own profile seriously enough, but I would for sure swipe right if you showed up. I like the pictures, I love the geek out answer, you seem great.
I like your profile and I like your pictures. You come off very genuine and light hearted, curious and intelligent. You also seem down to earth, quirky, fun, and you have your own sense of style. You seem to have a good sense of humor and varied interests, not to mention you can dress up nicely and be casual as well. Youâve got a great smile and appear to be comfortable in various surroundings. You seem like someone that would be fun to go on adventures with, too.
Great job in your profile and good luck!
you’re cute and I like your prompts! would definitely like + comment if you came up in my deck đ
My advice is to take some good pictures just for this instead of trying to use random pictures you just happen to have. It’s hard to tell what you look like from these because of the sunglasses, being turned away from the camera, or squinting in the sunlight.
Delete the Mohawk and the dog photo
If you donât want to get married, I wouldnât use the first photo. Iâm assuming you were a groomsman and the wedding vibe is strong.
Sunglasses are a thumbs down in general, you have two.
The have fun and get weird in public comment reads to me as exhibitionism lol maybe consider rephrasing
Replace the photos with sunglasses
You are open to both long term and short term? Honestly thatâs just too undefined at our age. For me I wouldnât swipe based on it feeling you arenât sure what you want.
I think the photos are fine. Enough to decide whether worth a date or not. What I donât like is ultimately looking for ltr but meanwhile just short term. Make up your mind, you either ready for LTR and just waiting for the right person or you are not ready yet. A lot of people donât know what they want right now.
I agree with those who said delete dog and mohawk pics. I also felt a bit odd about the first pic, it looks like youâre walking down the aisle to a wedding, so my mind went was this your own wedding? Regardless, feels a bit full on to open with that, a bit like hi letâs get married kind of thing. Like letâs get to know eachother first? Lol
I’d swipe. I like the variety of photos, and the prompts are fun!
Ditch the green hair pic
Too many of your photos are spent in similar-looking scenes. Show a location or a hobby!
This may involve having a helper take pictures for you. This may involve a professional photographer, even!
Would 100% swipe right, wish you lived near me!
Only keep the red tee pic, sunglass pic, and get a new pic
The Mohawk photo and the last photo where youâre sitting down and staring off into space are the two that I would suggest replacing.
The one of you in the tux is the best, I think.
Maybe see if friends have any impromptu pics of you smiling and talking/hanging with friends, or something?
My two cents, as someone who dated in the DC area for nearly 8 yearsâ I donât see your political affiliation listed. Maybe itâs just not in the screenshots you provided. During the Trump administration, my friends and I noticed this was often code for âTrump supporterâ for men who wanted to sleep around but didnât want to be immediately swiped left by more liberal women. Usually there were other flags on the profile, like photos hunting, in military uniform, etc. and was usually confirmed in conversation.
Before people come for me here, I now live out West and this is NOT the case elsewhere. It seemed to be a trend during the Trump administration in DC particularly. Might have changed in the couple of years since I left so take my thoughts with a grain of salt.
Edited for clarity.
Youâre in my area! If you need someone to take new photos, I could be your gal! đ
Kind of weird to edit your profile based on other peoples views. But yourself.
Wait, are dudes putting that they want kids just to get matches? Because that’s one of the fastest ways to a left swipe for me.
Send me your profile so I can swipe right on you lol
Why its not good to want to have kids?