Hi
I (23M) have recently been dating someone (21F) we are just dating and have not committed so far. Recently the topic of when to tell parents about a partner came up in our discussions and she told me she would not be telling her parents about a partner until about 1.5 to 2 years. Now I understand each person has a different process and relationship with their parents so that period of time where they have that discussion varies, but I can’t help but feel that is an awful long time not to tell your parents about someone you are dating. Personally I would have that discussion at around 5-6 months just so my parents are aware of what is going on in my life, so wanted some advice as to what people think about this. Your comments are appreciated
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I don’t share *everything* with my parents, and they’re definitely not the first people I call as I am entering into a new relationship, but after a year and a half to two years I would have to actively avoid (to the point of lying to them) to make sure I didn’t disclose I was seeing someone. Part of a normal, natural flow of conversation is to talk about things you’re doing in your life and the people you’re with while you’re doing those things. A couple of years seems bizarre to me, but you never know for sure unless you know a lot more about this person’s family situation.
I think I am the total opposite. I am pretty open with parents ( not entirely open since I do like to live my life publicly with judgement ) but the minute I start seeing someone new it probably come up in conversation but it doesn’t really turn to “ when can I meet her “ type feeling. It’s more like “oh you your seeing someone that great”. I believe like 3 – 5 months is good enough time to show off to your parents.