I’m a man (22) and don’t have any urges to go after women, but I want to, I want some excitement, and to feel attractive to myself and others.
I feel like I emotionally distance myself with new people to avoid being hurt/disappointed automatically, which in turn doesn’t even let me get into the mood of wanting it. I want to reconnect more with my sexuality more. Any tips?
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Sort of in the same boat, and following thread out of curiosity. Only thing I can offer as advice is that back when I have had partners that I felt accepted by and could really relax with, the urge for sex and my libido returned big time. It’s not that easy to go from where you’re at to there obviously, it was a stroke of luck for me last time, but maybe someone on here has some more useful tips.
In the meantime I could recommend starting some physical exercise and some sort of mindfulness practice, meditation or otherwise, to get a bit more settled, present and comfortable in your own body and mind. And trying to be social, trying to set small goals and completing them in your everyday life. It helps in the long run with just generally feeling better, getting out of your own head, and I think that takes the edge off of the fear of being hurt or disappointed.