Like title says. I’ve been able to make previous GFs finish before this one and obviously all girls are different when it comes to that but I want to be able to do the same with my new GF.
She’s not exactly keen on oral which is what I’d typically do, but I can’t tell if it’s because she’s uncomfortable or something rather than my skills or her not actually enjoying it. (She wouldn’t sleep with me for a month when we started talking because she hadn’t gotten a wax and thought I would be grossed out). I’ve gotten her close from fingering her and rubbing her clit when she’s been especially horny, but for some reason (unclear if my fault) it never gets past the buildup.
I think she might(?) have a vibrator at home so that could be a possibility, but I’m not sure and will have to ask later. I’ve also never used toys in bedroom so would be new for me too. All I know for sure is that she’s said she’s never finished with another guy, but only been with 1-2 others before me. And she’s also finished only from using the bathtub faucet (depending on the vibrator possibility I guess).
Im wondering if there’s anyone who’s like this that could offer advice for how I can make my GF finish in bed. There’s nothing wrong with our sex and we both agree it’s the best we’ve had and it’s continually getting better. But I’d really like to develop a method to have her finish before we have sex.
Thanks in advance for any tips or advice.
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I think this would require more talking between you two. You brought up some questions that only she can answer.
1. Is her objection to oral stemming from overall preference or from possible insecurity (which can be worked on)
2. Is she able to achieve orgasm with the help of toys, and if so, how would she feel including them in the bedroom?
My guess is she gets in her own way.
Typically guys are very physical in their orgasms. If you rub the penis in a pleasing way you’re going to get an orgasm.
Women are physical, but also very mental. If we’re worried, or stressed, or thinking about how gross we are because we haven’t waxed, or whatever it can be really hard to orgasm. Doesn’t matter how good it feels we’re just kinda stuck.
My suggestion is take her orgasming out of the equation and replace it with her feeling good/enjoying the sex. If she orgasms that’s great but you can still have good sex without her orgasming. Hopefully without the pressure she’ll relax and will have more orgasms
(Also I’m kinda curious if she grew up with sex was bad in some way)
Whatever the collection of reasons for her anorgasmia, they’re all in her, not you. All in all, keep expectations of her sexual responsiveness low, then calibrate the overall relationship accordingly.
She dislikes pubic hair extremely; she avoids oral — already she’s inhibited and prissy. She only comes from a stream of water, and maybe a vibrator — that could be due entirely to physical deficiency; science so far can’t explain why some women don’t learn to reach orgasm. Men should set aside performance anxiety about “getting women off” when the women are hard cases. Of course it’s a letdown and an embarrassment if only you ever get off during sexual interaction, but if the woman is OK with it, accept it. *Especially* if you don’t expect this relationship to last forever.
Lick the clit until it falls off or your tongue falls off. That’s it. Thank me later
There is no physical reason why a woman cannot have an orgasm, although some women have far greater difficulty than others in reaching a climax.
Reaching orgasm is all about letting go of control, and this concept can be a little frightening. Because of this, it is usually better if the woman can learn about her own body and responses without a partner to begin with, so that she can know what it is that gives her pleasure and ultimately brings her to orgasm.
You are very considerate of her, and you might appreciate [this guide](https://tpi02.wordpress.com/2022/09/29/female-101/). Then you will have done all that you can and after that I would advise not bringing the subject up again for quite some time. If you keep asking about it this may bring about a certain amount of performance anxiety and she will certainly not be able to let go. ‘A watched pot never boils’ comes to mind!