So I (17M) met a girl (17F) a few days ago at this activity thing. & I’m seeing her again soon. I liked her as soon as I saw her. & I’m guessing she likes me too. She kept trying to make excuses to come & talk to me. Smiling a lot & laughing & shit like that.
But she left before I could ask for her number or snap or anything. But I plan to when I see her again in a few days. That’s a whole other thing. But I’m 90% sure I can handle it without screwing it up.
But my question is. I got the number. Great. Now what? I don’t wanna wait 3 days like the movies. That’s way to long. How early is too early to text her? & what Should the first text be? “Hey” sounds super boring. & the last thing I wanna do is come off as boring.
& I don’t want to necessarily give her “Im tryna fuck” vibes from the start cause Im not. I haven’t even really thought of her that way. Most of the answers I’ve seen all come off like that.
I actually just want to be her friend first & see if it can become something more. Definitely not just a fwb or a fuck buddy.
This is the first time I’m talking to a girl I don’t know from school. It was easier back then cause I knew her from class so I can just text whatever & see her in person a few hours later.
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There is nothing wrong with starting the conversation with just hey. But I’d let her know your name as it’ll be just a number when you text her. Say something as simple as “hey, it’s ____ , how’s your day/night going so far?” And make sure to be inquisitive when she replies, ask her what’s she’s doing, expand from there. Also don’t just reply with “its going good” as she’ll probably ask “how bout you?” In regards to how your day is going… you can ask questions that require effort to be made in order to keep the conversation going like “what are your interests?”, “do you have any goals you’re working towards right now?” , “are you planning on continuing school after you graduate or are you going to take a year off?”, etc…