I’ve been dating someone (26F) for about 3 months now. We go on dates very frequently, have met eachothers friends a couple of times and we sleep together like 2/3 nights a week.
Last monday, when we were together, she told me she was having some issues she was thinking about. She told me she will be travelling from july till she wants to come back to go to SE Asia for fun. On the other hand, we really do have strong feelings for eachother and we really like-like eachother mutually. We dont want to lose eachother.
It was a really deep and heavy conversation, with us both crying next to each other.
Now im struggling with it a little bit. I am willing to wait for her, but only if I can get a prognosis on when she will be back and only if we are exclusive for eachothers/are in a relationship. Maybe a Classic case of “right person wrong time”…
What would you recommend? Could you give me some tips, advice, words? I am a bit off…
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It’s wrong person, wrong time because she doesn’t want the lifestyle you want.
Your needs don’t match. More time, won’t fix it and not something to wait for.
You and this person want different things out of life and the timing on this is just wrong. You’re not entirely at fault since apparently she didn’t tell you up front about her plans. But being able to adjust to new information is the essence of being human and having that big homo sapiens brain. Thankfully three months isn’t a lot of investment so you should be able to compartmentalize this as the “near miss” it was then get back to your life as it was prior to meeting this person.