Guys who weren’t ready for kids but impregnated someone, how did you handle it?

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1. I think in the majority of cases an unexpected maturity arises, a “I can do this” develops from initial fear. Doubtless the same in the woman. In some cases no, and it’s awful, but in most cases it develops just fine.

2. When my gf got pregnant, I honestly handled it badly at first. I was depressed because I didn’t want a baby with her then after a few months into her pregnancy, I also lost my job. I resented her, I stopped showing her affection and when my kid was born, I distanced myself from him, so his mom had to carry most of the parenting duties. My kid was about 6 months old when I finally pulled my head outta my ass and started actually being a father. I let go of my resentment and loved my kid unconditionally. My gf and I tried to make it work but we ended things a month or so before our kid turned 1. That was 3 years ago. Co-parenting has been a challenge but we’ve handled it well by just continuing to have open communication about our kid.

3. I stood up and became the best father I could be.

4. I called my dad and im like “ hi dad i gotta tell you something but dont be mad but youre gonna be a grandpa “ he sighed snd said “ we’ll talk about this when youre mother gets home “