I have a first date tomorrow and it’s 30 degrees outside! I want to wear this off the shoulder shirt because I love it, but I have a lot of hyperpigmentation and scarring on my back that I’m selfish conscious about. I’m also worried that because I have a tattoo on my back it’ll draw his attention. I’m mixed (black and white) so the hyperpigmentation is quite noticeable. Do you think he’d care? I’m already self conscious enough about going out with him. I don’t look like either of his exes who are both white and smaller than me.
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I think that showing it on the first date is the right move, less chance to get attached if they later turn out to be shallow about it. Also good practice for being comfortable with your perfectly normal skin.
I’d bet a good stack that he doesn’t give half a damn.
Rock the shirt.
I’m sure he’ll notice but I doubt he’ll say something.
for your own peace of mind, what are you doing to try and fade the marks if anything? I also deal with back acne occasionally and the hyperpigmentation lingers for so long, but I’ve been able to speed up the process of fading with azelaic acid/tretinoin one day, niacinimide the other.
Wear that shirt and show him what you have to offer! If he isn’t into it, then he isn’t the right one for you. It’s better to find out now than on like the 5th date or something.