I (M18) went to a party tonight because of Easter. After a while at the party I took my friend (F18) to go for a car ride. We stopped somewhere and started making out. Then she told me to go somewhere more quite. We continued to making out and then I just started finger her. I was feeling very good at that moment. She then told me to do something else so she first gave me a hj to get me hard. She started giving a bj and I really couldn’t feel it. The worst part is I finished very fast. I didn’t even like it. I was stressed. I’ve never had any sexual encounters before except masturbation. She was nice and tried to cool me down. I feel so bad right now and I don’t know what to do.
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You finished quickly, but didn’t you like it? You didn’t enjoy the sensaton, or mentally, you didn’t feel good about the overall experience?
Clearly, a lot else was going through your mind, and that’s ok. First times for most sexual things, are hilariously awkward. Could have been her first BJ don’t know, but at the same time, that’s ok too. Overstressed and sex don’t work until you know what helps you, so again, you’re good. Good on your friend to calm you down post-BJ.
As far as the cumming quick, it happens. If a guy says he doesn’t or hasn’t, 9.9 out of 10 he’s lying. Or they jerked off before the sexual encounter, haha. So although awkward, give props to your friend for getting you off that fast. Overall, cumming quick, is normal and fine, just make sure to take care of your partner and everybody wins… Trust me!
It’s very normal to finish fast when you’re with another partner especially for your first time. It’s not the same as masturbation.next time don’t take anything it’s not needed especially for your age.
I’m not sure how someone “finishes” quickly, yet claims not to have been able to feel anything.
Give it another try.
Next time will be better ❤️ i find im always all in my head during sex too.
Sounds like first time jitters.
Hey just to say, you know you can say stop at any time. I know you finished, and it’s made you feel a bit weird. But it’s not often said to guys, if you’re not feeling it, mentally or physically and you need a second or you need to stop, you can stop.
Sometimes it takes a while for your brain to catch up to your body, and it’s all new experiences etc so just try to take it more slowly when something like this happens again
you do nothing. what happened happened. it was your first. you probably had a million things going through your head (no pun). next time, be in the moment. don’t overthink things. enjoy the top. **have fun**.
I’m more surprised people are getting together to party for, *easter*?
If you’re inexperienced in sex it’s normal for you to orgasm fast or not at all. Get more experience in a safe and consensual way and you’ll get used to it. Sex should be fun and sometimes bad sex happens, that’s ok.
As a guy who has recently started having sex, it’s 101% normal
I miraculously didn’t have any issue the very first time, but from the 2nd time “duration” problems started coming (pun intended lol)
Being nervous is totally normal, it’d be stranger if you weren’t, and it’s also cool that the girl didn’t make you feel bad about it
Not feeling anything and not lasting much are both caused by the fact you were nervous since it’s your first time, but like I said it’s totally fine
I know it feels awful but with time and good communication with your partner everything will go smoothly
Nobody really expects the first time to be that good, nerves are totally normal. Trust me, in terms of first times you actually did well.
In terms of not feeling it, I’ve found this is common with car BJ’s if you’re sitting next to each other and she’s doing it from the side. It just concentrates the contact on parts of you that are less sensitive than if she were facing you.
Perfectly normal with this being your first time. Just go with the flow and let yourself enjoy it. This will be different as you get more experience. We have all have been nervous and full of anxiety our first time with anything sex related.
It’s OK! Your first experiences will rarely be your best. There are many emotions from excitement to enjoyment, fear, pressure etc that interfere with the experience. It’s not the same for everyone, and it’s not the same every time.
You had this experience, be open minded for your next one. I hope you can do it with the same girl and try to have fun and not feel any pressure. Allow your emotions to pass.
This is your first sexual experience. It’s very normal to feel this anxiety in your first time. It doesn’t mean it’s gonna happen at the second time. You were probably thinking about anxious stuff and you weren’t focusing on the present moment. You weren’t enjoying the satisfaction. They were only thoughts running through your mind. You could give her another chance. You could take her on a date, watch a movie, invite her into your home etc. If you realize you don’t like her, than maybe that’s why you felt bad. But if the second or the third time feels good, then your first time feeling awful might be because of your anxiety.
She will get better at giving BJ’s but it sounds like you might need to get better at receiving them too. Don’t worry, your experience is kind of typical. Cars are great for convenience but besides that, it’s an awkward place for sex. I used to not finish from BJ’s when I was young. I finally realized it was because I wasn’t relaxing. Once I finally relaxed, it was on like donkey Kong.
Same thing happened to me. Relax, communicate with your partner, and everything will be fine
It’s your first time and it’s not always going to be some firework experience. Once you find someone you like emotionally sexually attracted to it’ll feel like fireworks. Just don’t get caught up in this one experience and move on. Clearly you physically liked whatever she was doing.
With it being your first time and all. Do you think you might have expected it to feel way more pleasurable than it was?
In no way or form am I implying bjs don’t feel great, there is a number of things that vary between people
Sounds better than my first bj. It was so awful I faked finishing (it was dark and she didn’t want it in her mouth) and I spent months wondering why people hype up sex so much
Just nervous the first time, mate. The more it happens the more chill it will be and, honestly, it’s hard to imagine you not fucking loving it in future.
One step (or bj) at a time. Haha.
Not gonna lie, a *lot* of firsts in sexual experiences will have their awkward or uncomfortable moments. Dunno if you’ll have another encounter with this apparent FWB but my best advice? *Relax*!
Take some deep breaths, let the mood and energy build naturally, and take your time to be thoughtful with your actions. You’ll probably find that ideas on how to give and receive come to you more easily.
And hey, when in doubt, try giving *her* some attention for a while! Touches, kisses, dirty talk, whatever she likes, encourage feedback so you can *learn* what she does and doesn’t like. The more relaxed and into the mood you get for these things, the more confidence you build? The better future encounters will go.
I’ll say to you what I say to people in multiplayer video games “Everyone was a Noob once!”. Can’t learn without practice, my friend. Communicate with her, take it slow and steady until you get a pace you both like, and forgive yourself when you make mistakes, because I promise you even the best lover in the world still screws up sometimes.
Oh and most importantly, have fun! The more enjoyable for you both, the more chemistry? The easier that whole “relaxing” thing is to do.
Don’t give up, my dude. You’re life’s just getting started, and you’ll have many more chances to learn and improve!
My friend the bj wasnt awful you were just to wound up to properly feel anything which is understandable more experinces will help you moving forward
To me, blow jobs are overrated. I like to have my dick sucked. But mostly as foreplay and not as a goal. With that being said, I love giving blowjobs to completion. So luckily, it takes all kinds.
First time with piv, I came in maybe 10 seconds. It felt just so over-the-top different/better than what had only been a hand (or mouth) previously. My GF of the time didn’t mind too much, we had later piv that was good for her. It was just part of learning, and an understanding partner is valuable for this time of life!
Nerves and mental and emotional states play a huge role in how your dick operates. You’ll learn how to say what you want and guiding her in what feels good to you. Different guys like it different ways and a lot of people don’t realize that
Let me give you a tip. My first bj felt painful and I didn’t like the teeth. But after a few times, I learned what I like and I told her to do some foreplay first through my clothes and then guided her to use her tongue and go slow and steady.
That’s for me though, maybe for you it’d be different. That’s why it’s better to get more experience to know what you like.
That being said, if the girl has slept with anyone before, you should take a test for STDs just in case. Until you both are confirmed not infected, maybe use a condom for bjs and sex.
Did I ever tell you about the worst blowjob I ever got?
It was great!!!
Be lucky you got some in the first place