So, due to trauma for the past couple of weeks I’ve been faking orgasms with my fwb. I know this is a huge no-no but I have trauma in the past from this scenario. My ex told me I was purposely making him look stupid when I couldn’t orgasm and sent me to the ER after forcing me to have sex with him when I was dry.
I just want to bring my toy, which I know works really well, and tell him to use it. I don’t want him to eat me out anymore. I just don’t know how to tell him gently or even put some sort of white lie in there? I don’t know. Help?
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Like so many posts on Reddit, the answer is that nobody hears going to be able to give you some kind of magic way around the issue. You have to have a direct conversation. You have to tell them how you’re feeling, why you are feeling the way you are feeling and then discuss potential options. Honestly men do a lot better with situations they think they can fix then they do with just having to comfort a woman without coming up with solutions. Even if you’re just friends with benefits you need to be able to have very open communication with each other in order to keep things healthy and mutual. So I think that in all likelihood you will find him far more receptive than you fear you will, and any kind of attempted deception is only going to make things worse in some way.