I 24F have a sister 20F who´s been dating this girl who happens to be her new roomate for I want to say two weeks now. I want to be happy for my sister, but her girlfriend gives me the worst feeling. Everytime I call or facetime her, she is in the background trying to chime in and it annoys me because sometimes I need to have a sister sister talk and it can be hard to do that with her. Something I need to add, when my sister first moved in, she complained to me that this girl was too clingy. I didnt think too much about it then, but now it gives me such a strange feeling.
I think what also rubs me as odd is that way they seem to be moving so quickly. Earlier this month, my sister was seeing this other guy but they ended up breaking up before she started dating this girl. But now, barley two weeks later my sister is flexing her all over social media and introducing her to everyone in her family as her girlfriend. This is odd to me because my sister has never formally introduced her past partners or became offical with anyone until a month or two of dating. She´s only ever had two serious boyfriends and causal boyfriends and she introduced her first boyfriend to us after three months of being secretive.
I do want to say something, however I don´t want her to think I am being negative or trying to get my revenge. For context, I have a crush on my friend who lives in the UK and next month I will be meeting him when I study abroad and we will be going out. My sister doesnt like him and has said she gets a bad feeling from him, but my sister has never liked anyone I dated or had an interest in simply because she thinks no one is good enough for me. So, I don´t want her to think I am out to get her or anything.
Let me add, I am not being homophobic. I am bisexual myself and was dating a girl a few months back. I truly want to be happy for my sister, but I can´t shake this strange feeling.
Tl;dr- My sister has a new girlfriend and she gives me the worst feeling and I don´t know if I should say anything.
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Both of you are just going to have to let each other live your lives.
Even if you say something, your sister will not care and do what she wants to do anyways. Same with you.
Maybe you should trust your intuition and talk to your sister about your concerns.
Let her do her unless she asks for advice.
If you want some one on one time, tell her that. Just say it would be great to have some one on one time a couple times a month because I miss it. Let’s do X together, just us.
I am not seeing anything weird or worrisome here. If you feel like your quality time needs aren’t being met, by all means, address that.