My girlfriend sat me down a few days ago to say she thinks we should have more sex and I didn’t really know what to say without hurting her feelings. It’s just very hard to initiate as she doesn’t like hands down there and in 8 years I’ve never been allowed to go down so foreplay is almost out of the question so it’s really hard to just start and get in the moment when she also doesn’t like kissing. I used to try a lot but it just kind of became exhausting working myself up with a back massage or something for ten minutes to be told no, not now. So that being said I’ve tapered off and stopped trying nearly as much as it genuinely feels like a lot of work to get her into it. Any ideas? I do love this woman, just kind of surprised she told me she wants more when she is usually saying no so it’s confusing
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Seems like she built up the confidence to say she isn’t happy with the status quo, but couldn’t say how to fix it.
Your next move is to ask some probing questions to find out how you can initiate better… or maybe even she wants to initiate more often but is embarrassed. Basically, your conversation isn’t over.
Bondage.