I have recently started being active sexually with someone I knew from school (not great friends but we have mutual friends so he is a trustable guy)
He kinda wants me to give a BJ but I’m not that comfortable and have communicated the same but there have been instances wherein I feel like he expected it but I did nothing. I’m afraid that might put him off or this might stop and idk how to communicate with him properly.
Note : I don’t have much experience in BJs and quite apprehensive about where that dick might have been from a hygiene perspective.
What to Do?
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Take a shower together and then give him a BJ, you know it’s clean.
If you don’t want to do it, stand your ground. This may in theory make the arrangement fall apart, but you should still stand your ground if you don’t want to do it. Because your integrity is important and must always be respected.
That said, if you want to figure out a way to be more keen on trying, then I guess that you need to address your concerns.
Is it just the hygiene thing that you are concerned about? Don’t be afraid of telling him that he needs to ensure that he has good hygiene. Perhaps drag him into the shower, shower together, make sure that he is properly soaped up (that alone will make him hard as a pole, trust me…) and rinsed off. And THEN find out what you can do with your mouth.
Next step, ask yourself if this was your only qualm, or if there is some other concerns you need to deal with too?
If you don’t want to do it don’t do it. If you feel like hygiene may be an issue leave. I didn’t and I ended up dealing with fish smelling pussy. Don’t do it. Something in you is already telling you not to. Listen to it
Lol so you are worried about where it’s been as far as sucking it but it’s ok for it to go inside of you