I’m an average guy, maybe slightly above average if I dress up. Been working on myself and dedicated myself to a gym. Honestly, I don’t see dating life going anywhere until my body is sculpted. Besides, Im personally not doing it just to be more attractive for women.
I have a decent personality, life has never been easy and I guess it’s had some effects on me. I can be anywhere from happy and outgoing to quite and nonchalant, preferably the latter.
My only real issue is I guess I have trauma because (long story short) was bullied, single and ugly from 13-18. Then a few more added years of loneliness and rejection after graduation.
I guess just imagine the typical life of an *ncel ( I’m not claiming this group) because that’s basically what life was. That term didn’t exist when I was in HS.
I still carry some insecurities but have been rejected enough to not give af about them. It is what it is.
My question is (on AVERAGE. I know not every woman is the same)
1. Do I keep my past to myself and play around it?
2. Tell them and accept my lowered chances
3. Constantly change the subject
(I’m not looking long term, love, any of that. Just short term fun.) Why mention something that doesn’t matter?
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Keep it to yourself and act confident, especially if you’re just looking for short term fun. If you tell a woman this before you’ve established a serious connection, your chances will drop to 0. Just act cool. In the initial stage, you’re actually more attractive if you’re a bit closed off.
Strictly speaking short-term fun, I probably would not disclose that information about myself. There’s no sense in getting into the core of your personality and past with somebody if it’s just for fun and short-term. I would advise you to make sure your partner knows what kind of relationship you want. It will save you a lot of hassle.
Download tinder make a profile like some people and then go work on your esteem