Hi everyone,
so recently I have had issues in my sex life that i had never encountered before and it is really stressing me out…
I always considered myself pretty good in bed and that’s the feedback i was getting from girls too, hence why i had loads of FWBs circiling around.
However, recently I am dealing with some issues that are starting to affect my confidence :
– My refractory period seem to have increased significantly: i just can’t have sex twice in a row anymore in the same night. I am still able to go for a long first session but then it’s over until the next morning . Most of the time, the girl i am with wants a second round but i just can’t have/maintain an erection for that to happen which makes me feel shit.
– With a girl I have been dating recently I am having erectile dysfunction too. I don’t know if it has anything to do with us having no sexual chemistry or if it’s all on me, but whenever we switch positions/ she tries to « masturbate » me i just go soft. I need constant friction to stay hard. The condom doesn’t help either…
did that happen to any of you and how do i get out of that circle?
I was thinking of stopping watching porn/masturbating to it as a first step because lt has become a daily habit recently
On a side note i have been suffering from irritable bowel syndrome in the past few months don’t know if it has anything to do with it…
3 comments
Yeah porn can give people that problem.
Search up porn-induced ed.
1) sexual chemistry and/or the anxiety you already have of not being able to perform could definitely cause temporary ED. If she isn’t doing it for you then you either have to try to spice things up or move on.
2) Nothing against having protected sex, but I personally have major issues staying erect with a condom. Not condoning having unprotected, but I can relate because I have been with hot as hell hookups and had issues due to condoms.
3) Frequent porn/masturbation will desensitize you to the real thing, plus wear your libido out so you are less into it/can’t go multiple times. If you are having issues with your performance, stopping the porn/masturbation for a while is a must.
4) I am also 32 and yeah recently it has been tougher to go multiple rounds. But I am with a new gf and our chemistry is amazing and she has been getting me at attention for 2 or even 3 rounds in a day. So while it is tougher for a lot of guys as you get into your 30’s, the sexual attraction/chemistry is also a large part of it as well. Another sign pointing to your partner might not be able to fully satisfy you sexually.
Did you start taking any medication to manage your IBS diagnosis?