I (f30) just started dating a guy (32) and we are really into each other. Literally everything was going so well until we finally had sex. He has a long dick and I (assume) I have a shorter cervix so it literally felt like he was jabbing me in my cervix… which is so painful! The sex was not enjoyable at all and even with him going slow, it still hurt. Fast forward, we’ve had sex 3 more times and the same thing… I am a sexual person, I love to explore positions and try new things.. fast, hard, slow, nasty, dirty… I don’t want to be limited at all. I also don’t get emotionally attached to people, so this is discouraging. I’ve had this happen with one other guy, but just stopped banging him after a few times since it was hurting. BUT I don’t want to end things with my new guy because I actually like him. We are super communicative and he’s seriously great about it as in going slow and being aware so he isn’t hurting me. But… I don’t want to have delicate sex every time. Basically, I don’t want to be strapped to few positions because everything else is uncomfortable… anyone dealt with this and how did you navigate it?
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keep trying different positions, if hes long enough to knock it he might bw able to get into the fornix.
I find prone bone and spooning sex are good because 2 inches of his dick will still be outside.
Sounds like an issue with the angle… this happen to me when my cervix drops during my cycle and we’re doing doggy style.. have you tried a position where he isn’t going so deep? There are many to try! And also knowing about your cycle and when your cervix drops will help a ton!! There are also toys you can put on him to shorten how much of him will actually enter you!! Hopefully this helps!!
I had this issue with an fwb a while back. His penis was just way too long. Our solution was anal. We basically just stopped having vaginal sex. Length isn’t an issue with anal sex for me so he could go as deep as he wanted. If you enjoy anal sex, this might be a way forward.