I’m (F18) not sure exactly why, because i have many friends who always talk to me about how they do, but during any sex i cant have any orgasm due to clitoris stimulation. I can squirt, (if they know what they’re doing of course) but i cant orgasm. I can make myself by masturbating, but i really want to experience it during sex cause i always feel horny and disappointed after sex, and so do the guys i get with because they think it’s their fault. I’ll be honest, i thought it was too, but even a guy who was insanely good at head, i couldn’t finish. I’ve tried using vibrators during sex as well but i still just can’t. I don’t know why and it makes me so pissed off. I can orgasm super quick on my own but not with someone else. Maybe i need a better vibrator? I don’t know.
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How do you do it on your own? I can’t do it either.
Honestly, a lot of women struggle to orgasm during sex. You’re not alone. It could just be a self-confidence thing caused by being so intimate with another human being. Can you get yourself off after the guy finishes with them there next to you? That might be a place to start to get your confidence up.
Start by doing whatever you do to get yourself off, but ask them to join in. Licking, kissing, sucking other parts of your body while you do your thing. After a while, they’ll learn what you like and they can take over more and more as you progress. It also might make you feel more comfortable and get out of your head a bit.
I think its common to not be able to orgasm from penetration alone. Clitoral stimulation might be more your thing?
I’ve 100% experienced this. The trick is to 1) get out of your head (allow your mind to relax/explore fantasies the way you do when you’re masterbating) and 2) be with someone who you actually like and who learns your body
I’m a guy and I have this problem, it’s only happened 3 times over a shit ton of experience. I think it’s a sensory thing in my case I’m way too overloaded during sex