If you try talking to a coworker, being friendly, and they talk back to you and are friendly back, but don’t try talking to you again after that/don’t say hi on their own.. is that a signal that they are not interested in talking to you and that you shouldn’t bother talking to them again? Or is this too rigid of a thought process?
I’m personally like this. People will try talking to me and I’m nice back, but don’t say hi or talk to them otherwise. I am still open to talking to the person but I think this sends off “leave me alone” vibes, which I don’t intend to give off, I just have social anxiety.
But I wonder if this is the case for most other people?
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good question. kinda? but not necessarily. from an outside perspective someone would feel like you don’t want to talk much if you don’t say “hello” they are most likely not going to assume you hate them though, they’ll just think you’re not a talkative person, and that you probably wouldn’t want to have another conversation with them, so this could make people avoid you just a little bit.
sometimes i do the same thing where i don’t initiate conversations , it doesn’t necessarily give off “leave me alone” vibes, but it might if you come across passive aggressively i guess? (i.e. having an annoyed expression on your face and then putting on a fake smile when you respond to them)
to be safe i’d just say “Hello! how are you doing today?” and have a quick little greeting when you see them. that’s what’s expected i think. that’d honestly suffice a little bit and allow people to view you as more approachable.
disclaimer i’m not a social butterfly. i just think i understand where you’re coming from a little bit lol