Do you support them or not and why?

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  1. If that’s how she’s more comfortable than so be it. If she would rather be in a hospital bed that’s fine too. She’s the one going through the ordeal, she needs to be as comfortable as possible.

  2. It’s been that way for most of human history…still sounds kinda messy tho.

    I’d support whatever the lady wishes…she is the one giving birth after all, the choice would be totally hers.

  4. I don’t really care too much, society is already letting them have the kid if they want to have it at home let them

    I’m not planning on having a kid, but I’d probably think less of someone who chooses to have it at home over going to a Dr. Unless they are in the usa

  5. In a resource-rich country it is taking unnecessary risk IMO, but everyone can do it however they want. If there is a midwife connected to the health system, then it’s probably fine for low-risk people.

  6. For safety and health .. hospital/private clinic.

    A medical professional should be present just in case.

    At home birth is in the cards if we can get the retinue required for safe birthing.

  7. Id probably want to die if something went wrong in a homebirth and we didnt have all the best medical personnel and equipment there to handle it

    It just seems like a risk that isnt really worth it to me

  9. I support whatever she and the health professionals come up with. I’m not the one going through it and I’m not the expert either.

  10. Not something my wife wants to do so that’s that.

    If someone else wants to do it, that’s not my business.

  11. If you do it right and get all the I think it’s fine

    If you’re “showing the man you don’t need them” by avoiding hospitals then I think you’re dumb

  13. Depends. Do I have to clean up the mess and where at in the house? I don’t want to be eating and have flash backs of a mini me Ace Ventura’n out of its mom like a rhinos ass.

  16. Not my call, but if asked for advice I’ll probably point to the historical leading cause of death for women.

  18. People can do what they want. I am a man and do not have standing to decide when, whether, or under what conditions a child is born. Not my body, not my decision.

    But when I have been asked for advice, here it is:

    Our first child was eleven pounds. We did not know this before she was born. That error nearly killed both my wife and my daughter, despite our delivery at a fully-staffed hospital and split-second access to an emergency room. My daughter will require physical therapy for the rest of her life, incidentally.

    Apart from being lucky that she and my wife are alive, we are, furthermore, lucky that we — at every point in our pregnancy — did everything that our doctors advised in the safest possible way. Had we not, the issue of *who is to blame for my daughter’s birth injury* might have become legally or emotionally complicated.

  19. I do not support them. My wife had two very smooth deliveries for our daughters but I have family and friends that were not so fortunate. If they had been at home the consequences would have been catastrophic.

  20. I worry about risk.

    I know someone who did a home birth with the help of one of those home birth people (forget the title).

    I think there was an issue with the placenta not coming out correctly or something, anyway the mother started losing a lot of blood and had to go to a hospital. I think it took a while to get her to a hospital and she lost a lot of blood – I can’t recall how many litres but it was not a “healthy” amount. This was in the US so on top of that who knows what the insurance company decided to cover.

    Another friend did a home birth, also resulted in an emergency visit to the hospital. I didn’t ask him what happened to his wife but their second child was born in a hospital. So they learned their lesson.

    Anecdotal of course but…I would prefer not to have my hypothetical partner put herself at risk if things went sideways.

  22. It’s fine if there are no complications.

    If there are, it’s pretty nice to have instant access to all the resources of a hospital instead of having to wait for an ambulance.

  24. I mean I don’t plan on having children but you do you, as long as there’s someone who can help of things take a turn for the worse i see no problem with it.

  25. If that is what she wants to do, go for it. I am sure there are safeguards in place, but I would prefer the hospital and would have strongly suggested that to my wife if we had this conversation. There is still a lot that could go wrong, and having a lot more options/answers at your disposal (in the hospital) is smart, IMO.

  26. our baby was 10 days late and still won’t come out, end up getting caesarean after 3 days in hospital.

    i can’t imagine doing that at home.

  28. People did it for thousands of years, but there’s a reason why it’s recommended to go to a hospital for it. A lot can go really wrong, really fast, so it’s safer to be in a place where you can get help right away.

  29. Just be as sure as possible in advance that you’re not going to have any complications.

  30. “Home delivery is for pizza not babies” – the best OB/Gyn I’ve ever met.

    I’m very close with several OB/Gyns. When things go bad at a birthing center or home birth, the ambulance rushes her to a hospital. If she or the baby are too far gone that death goes on the hospitals stats. So you’ll see people claim “more women and babies die in hospitals”. No shit. That’s where ambulances rush you to save your life or your baby’s.

    If everything goes fine then a home birth CAN work. But there are exactly ZERO indications that a birth will be problem free. You’re making a bet. And every birth is different. Just because her last three were fine doesn’t mean 4 will be. When shit goes wrong you want a physician standing there with years of training to save you.

    I once did the math for a difference in training between a Women’s Health NP and a board certified OB/Gyn. I included educational time and supervised training.

    A Women’s Health NP gets 1,760 hours of education/training before going into practice.

    A Board Certified OB/Gyn gets 17,800 hours of education/training before becoming an attending.

  31. Do them if you want, I don’t care, but I think a hospital is much better. It would be really messy and there would be no trained medical personnel with the proper equipment present if there is an issue.

  32. Hospital worked fine for us. Having all the medical gadgets around and good midwifes provided safety. I CAN to a degree understand the point – once the kid is born you are at home, in a familiar surrounding.

  33. They are good and possibly encuragable for a second or later birth if the first one went perfectly and you don’t want or need the pain reducers. But If there is a history of complications, personal or family, I would strongly recommend not doing a home birth.

  34. No kids here so not something I think about very much, but…

    It sounds like in some countries they have the medical infrastructure to do home births safely (properly trained midwives who can attend low-risk births). I believe the Netherlands is one country where it’s common. In the US though home birth is idiotic because we aren’t setup for it.

    If I was the sort who wanted kids then I would not have them with a partner who wanted a home birth.

  35. I was born in the UK as a homebirth. My mum had a qualified privately hired midwife in attendance and after having both of my older brothers in hospital I think she was relived to have her last child in comfort of her own home. Given it all went perfectly fine for me I fully support it as an idea for women if they want it so long as they have some kind of professional in attendance.

  36. In the end it really doesn’t matter what a guy wants, it’s whether or not the woman is comfortable and safe

  38. There are ways and circumstances to do it with reasonable safety.

    If you’re in the circumstances and have the means to get the circumstances right, go ahead. If not, don’t.

  39. If anything about the birth goes sideways, you’ll want to already be at a hospital

  40. She’s the one who has to push the baby out. She gets to say how it’s going to be. My only role in the whole process is support. Support, support, support.

  41. I don’t see why it matters what are opinion is. Everything I’ve been told is that I’m just here to pay for whatever method of delivery she wants. It’s not my body so it’s none of my business.

  42. Having a home birth is basically saying you don’t care if the baby lives or dies

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