For those who don’t know, ddlg stands for daddy dom, little girl. I haven’t heard of it until recently, specifically from men interested in taking on a dd role. Based on my brief research, it seems like there‘s a variety of ways to enjoy this type of dynamic – sexual, non-sexual, and what I consider to be morally grey…
I understand why someone would enjoy the more submissive side: being taken care of, letting go of responsibility, or using forms of regression as a coping method. I don’t understand men’s interest in taking on a dominant role in this dynamic though. Honestly, my first thought is they might be entertaining a perverted fantasy.
I’m not trying to kink shame, I just want to understand reasons *why* a man would be eager to engage in a dd role. I’ve had a couple men share this interest with me recently, but I was hesitant to ask more specific questions because I was afraid of the answers.
Constructive comments only please.
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To some degree my wife and I have this dynamic in our life. Her dad walked out when she was 11, instantly plunging the family into poverty and chaos. By taking care of her I give her back some of the love and security and stability that she lost. It assuages her anxiety.
I like helping people have a good life. I’m most interested in helping her have a good life. In those respects I suppose it has brought out a paternal instinct that I never knew I had (I never wanted children).
Sexually we are both switches, so it’s far less prevalent there than in the rest of our lives.
I’ll give you some reasons, but they’re only possibilities that won’t be true of every dominant looking for this kind of dynamic. They may like caring for someone, mentoring them. It could be about having someone look up to them. They may like spoiling their submissive.
We don’t have to personally understand why people are interested in whatever they are interested in. You might try asking, if someone mentions it to you. Just be respectful with your questions.
When a partner treats me as a Daddy Dom — by calling me Daddy, or in any number of other ways — the message I get from it is that she feels extra-safe and trusting with me.
There’s more to it, but that’s really the central effect which all the others orbit around: It’s like achieving an extra level of trust with my partner. That does a lot for me. Trust is a major turn-on for me.
I’ve run into a few men who were pedos while looking for a Daddy Dom. It’s put me off. Now I look for Gentle Doms. Same energy, no age play.
*following this thread because I’ve met 1 daddy dom in my time*
He turned out to have a white knight complex too.
Wasn’t interested in more.
*following this thread because I’ve met 1 daddy dom in my time*
He turned out to have a white knight complex too.
Wasn’t interested in more.
Simply put, it feels nice to take care of someone. I’ve always been a sort of caretaker in relationships, so it’s kind of just part of who I am. Being age regressed is such a vulnerable headspace, and it’s absolutely flattering to know that someone trusts me enough to show that side of themselves.
DDlg has never been a sexual thing for me or my partner. She *does* call me Daddy, but it’s more of just a title like Sir or Master.
She calls me Daddy. There is no age play in our dynamic. She wants the ability to be care free at times and I make that possible. I make the decisions with our best interests in mind. I take care of her when I can, snacks cuddles and rough sex when she needs it. I make sure she follows her rules and takes care of herself. I am allowed to do as I please with her body as she is my free use baby girl and that is what makes her feel free. We have been together for 25 years and she wouldn’t want it any other way.