I’m honestly just curious if any women have tips on how they like to get eaten out, or how men’s wife’s respond to their techniques. Currently 27M with 29F wife and wanna know what I can do to make her toes curl when I go down on her, I can already make her cum by going down on her but I’m always willing to make things better. What’re some sweet spots that make your eyes roll back?
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Give the book “She Comes First” a read. It has a few techniques along with baseline concepts.
Look up Nina Hartley she is the pussy queen
When she’s on her back, two fingers in massaging the “roof” near the entrance. That’s the g-spot and can help induce squirting in many women.
Kiss and lick everything, thighs included.
When she starts to get into it, keep doing the exact same thing. Do not speed up or increase pressure, she likes what you are doing already so don’t change it.
Ask her
Every woman is different, so it’s important to take any recommendations and explore if they are working with your partner.
With that established, two things that work really well for me have been:
1. Initiate slowly – build the anticipation with kisses and teases anywhere and everywhere, especially stomach, legs, and thighs.
2. Consistency once you find “the spot” – when you find something that works and draws a reaction (heavy breathing, pushing into your tongue, etc.) keeeeep doing it. I’ve found this often is a broad tongue motion up and down the clit but everyone is different
Look up KIVIN method.
Try it 😉
Eat it like ice cream, thank me later
my first tip is just to ask her. Don’t be nervous to ask her, every woman is different and im sure she’ll have no problem telling you. Second is to pay attention. Play around and if you’re doing something and she starts moaning more, twitching etc. KEEP DOING THAT AND DONT SWITCH IT UP. I know for me and a lot of other women we need the same thing consistently. Switching it up too much is just going to make us lose it so once you find the thing that she likes keep at it as consistently as possible and she’ll cum. Also for sweet spots i personally like right at the top of my clit but try to lick the whole thing. Don’t point your tongue while you do it and think of it more like using the middle of your tongue like licking an ice cream cone to get the whole clit
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Depends on the the woman and how sensitive she is.
Start slow. Always.
Some like to have their clit licked and sucked fairly hard. Some only need a small amount. Some like fingers, some don’t.
Try everything and get feedback. Mold your technique to what she likes.
Start off by kissing her lips, kiss her neck, kiss suck her ear lobes work down her collar bone to the breasts down her stomach kiss around her pussy go down her inner thigh then back up to her other thigh, do all this slowly for 10-15 minutes building up her arousal. Then give her one flat tongue lick from the bottom of her pussy to her clit to start her off then tease her some more. Use your hands to caress her butt or breasts and rub your hands slowly down her body. She should be super aroused now and you can continue more slow flat tongue licks, progressing to fingering her gspot use a come here motion with your finger. You can continue flat tongue licks or move to kiss suck and lick her clit, you can add some butthole massaging, rythm and consistency varies so that depends on her read her body language and talk to her, can add some dirty sexual talk as well. When you get really good incorporating edging will make her go bananas. Best of luck. Yours truly cunnilingus engineer.
Pressure. I don’t want soft little tongue movements, press down a little and simulate what it would be like if she were humping you. If she does start grinding a little, go with that flow.
Exactly what friendsormore77 said but also licking us bottom to top of clit like an ice cream with a flat tongue feels fucken amazing. On me the right side of my labia is super sensitive so dont just go nuts on the clit the left and right side should not be ignored 👌
Counterclockwise Swirl
Just don’t suck
Sucking on the clit is it for me.
Start like a butterfly landing on a flower. Finish like a pit bull with an open jar of peanut butter.
Once you’ve got all the technical advice down, if you are passionate about it, like ravenous, in my experience that adds to it.
Best advice I ever got was start like a butterfly landing on a flower, work up to a bulldog eating porridge.
Actually sucking on her clit. Pull it entirely into mouth with your now pursed lips. Suck on it like you are basically giving her head. While doing this, use the flat side and also the tip of your tongue on it. Circles, pressure so you are sort of digging in the space at the top of her clit and under her clitoral hood.
Keep trying to get it “deeper” into your mouth. Use your fingers to spread her and you can start with a large more open mouth to gather her clit into your mouth. That way when you do suck, you are pulling and extending her clit into your mouth. It will probably get bigger and longer while you do this so you will definitely know.
Extra points if you sort of nibble on it with your teeth. But only after she’s really wet and losing her mind!
Sometimes women like pressure on their g-spot during this too. You don’t have to go inside their vagina very far at all to feel it. And if you do the above first, their g-spot is going to be superrrr obvious. Have fun!
Licking the clit with the entire tongue width and sucking on it with decent amount of depth is when I get pushed over the edge. 😲😲😳😳
There’s only one: ask the pussy owner what they like.
Everything else is great for some, meh for some, and fucking awful for some.
Learn to eject a high velocity stream of water out of your mouth at a consistent rate for 5-10 minutes, works every time.
Don’t write the alphabet, that is generally very ineffective.
Some like a pointed tongue
Some like a flat tongue
Some like hard pressure
Some like soft pressure
Some like fast
Some like slow
Some like suction.
Some don’t
Some like a tease before you touch their clit
Some don’t
Every woman I’ve met has a preferred side
Don’t forget your fingers, gspot and a spot (sometimes) can be reached while using your tongue
If you hit the right everything don’t change it
Put their hands on your head, maybe they like it
Experiment with legs up/down
Experiment with on her back, stomach, on hands and knees
Some prefer fingers on their clit and tongue in the entrance
Maybe she likes when you hold her hips down
Maybe she likes if you squeeze her boobs
Maybe she likes if you hold her hands or wrists or arms
Try all that out and see what works best
I’d say ask her but I’ve found most women have no idea what’s being done so they can’t tell you, listen to her body
Read “She Comes First” by Ian Kerner. All cunnilingus fans should.
Anyone else sweating ?😁
You have to pay attention to her and what she loves. My wife doesn’t need a finger but others probably do
Pay attention to the clit the most, but tease her by licking all over her vagina. Fix your lips like your whistling, but suck in…that’ll be very intense for her. Just be precise with your tongue or you’ll end up being licking like a dog.
Two fingers inside and do a motion like your telling her to come over. In terms of area, it’ll be like your massaging just under her pubic bone
Talk dirty to her. Don’t go over board if you don’t do it all the time. Gradually increase it every time y’all have sex and it will have even more of an effect.
Most important of all, every woman is different. Some react completely different to dirty talk, while others need no penetration at all.
My process:
start slow. Start with plenty of foreplay. Kiss her lips (her face, not the other ones yet), up and down the sides of her neck, nibble her ears, down through her collarbone and over her shoulders. She should be moaning ever so slightly while you’re on the way down. All the while your hands should be caressing, squeezing, and teasing her breasts.
Next stop for your tongue on the way down is her breasts. stay away from her nipples for a bit. Kiss along the outside of her breasts and slowly make your way in. Lick them and squeeze them while you do so. Once you’ve teased the outside of her breasts like this for a while, you may then begin to lightly squeeze her nipples between your fingers (do this to the opposite beats that is currently not getting the mouth attention) or gently rub your fingers across her nipples from time to time. If she has really sensitive nipples they’ll be rock hard after you do this. Then, you can finally put your lips on her nipples. Again, slow. start by slowly and gently circling them with your tongue. Then slowly take it into your mouth. Lick across the top of her nipple from top to bottom, side to side. You can even lightly nibble and bite here, or maybe not lightly if she is into that.
Slowly continue down. Kiss down through her stomach. Make sure you slowly go over her belly button. Go up, and then back down her sides. At this point, the gates are opening for me. Her legs are spread open and waiting for me. Continue this while you get into position between her legs.
Once you’re in position, start by kissing her just above her mound. be careful that you do not touch her waiting pussy just yet. Then start kissing down her inner thighs. Maybe even go all the way down her legs, and then go back up.
Finally time for your treat. Start from the very bottom of her pussy and slowly lick all the way up to her clit with the tip of your tongue. Don’t linger on her clit once you get there. Lift your tongue up from her pussy and go back to the bottom or middle to continue. the moment she feels your tongue first touch her, she will let out the sweetest sigh of relief and desperation for more.
This is where I gently lick up and down the sides of her vulva (the outer most sides of the pussy). Avoid touching the clitoral hood though. This will pay off later. While you do this you can even use a finger or two to massage them as you go. Every once in a while dip your tongue inside her as deep as you can, like you’re trying to penetrate her, but with your tongue. Make some circular motions inside her and then resume giving attention to her vulva.
repeat a similar process, but for the inner labia (the inner lips of the pussy). Her moans should be sweet music right now. Now give the attention to her clitoral hood. start by licking circles around her clit with the tip of your tongue. Start in one direction, and then go the opposite. Go slowly. Don’t try to go to mach speed just yet. lick her clit up and down, from side to side, and maybe mix in the circular motion too.
pay attention to her body at this point. She should be absolutely losing it right now. She may be squirming, shaking, the works. The only thing you should watch out for is if she is trying to push you away from her clit. This is a sign that she is very sensitive. If that is the case then you need to slow down the pace of your tongue usage on her clit. She may even tell you she is too sensitive. If showing down isn’t enough, then go back to one of the previous techniques away from the clit for a bit and come back after she gets to cool down.
I know I have her when her legs are literally shaking. I’ll start to increase the pace on her clit slightly. If you imagine the previous pace as being a walk, this should be a light jog. Again, pay attention to her body here. Keep a consistent pace as her moans get quicker and louder. Don’t change anything. She should be closer and closer to the edge. I wait till she is right on the edge and about to lose it before I speed up to full power. Once the orgasm starts I stop moving my tongue, but I keep it on her clit till her convulsions stop.
My pro tips for when you’re ready to shatter her mind:
If I can manage how sensitive she is well, I will speed up and get her almost to the point of no return, and then immediately slow down. She will physically tense up as she is about to go over, and then release some of that tension when I slow down and audibly whimper for me to make her cum. I can usually only do this 2 or 3 times before she gets too sensitive.
Another thing you can do at this point is use your fingers to massage her inner lips while your tongue focuses on the clit. The clit is actually more than just the knot under the clitoral hood. It extends down the sides of the labia a little ways. So using your tongue to focus on her clitoral hood and then using your fingers to massage up and down her labia at the same time will be amazing for her.
You can also try placing two fingers inside her. You can have your fingers facing up and do the “come hither” motion. However, another effective way is to have your fingers facing down and pressed against the bottom of her vaginal wall. You don’t even need to move them. Something about the pressure this makes while you continue to lick her clit just works for an entirely new sensation ( for my SO and I at least).
The last tip is for my fellow band nerds (brass with class). Brass players make sound by puckering their lips within the mouth piece and then blowing air between them at a quick pace. This makes their lips flap up and down rapidly and produce the sound. We call this buzzing. It may seem silly, but you’d be surprised how effective this can be directly on the clit. However, doing exactly this means your tongue is not in the scene anymore. Of course, you could get her directly on the edge and then do this to send her over. BUT, i suggest something slightly different. I do something similar but with my mouth open, so that my tongue is free to continue licking. This means that you do the vibrating from your throat instead of at the lips. You essentially exhale air through your throat at a brisk pace. You should even feel your throat vibrate a bit while you make a tone. Meanwhile, you close your lips around her clit and make a seal, almost like you’re sucking it. At the same time your tongue is free to continue licking her clit directly while you buzz from your throat. For my SO, low notes (slower buzzing) while my tongue is still licking the clit is quick to get her on the edge. The high note (high buzzing) makes her scream while she cums. This will also make her very sensitive, so be sure to save it for when you know your going to make her cum, otherwise you run the risk of making her too sensitive and you’ll have to back off her clit for a little while. For her, this will literally feel like you installed a vibrator into your tongue and she should go wild.
Hope this helps. Happy pussy eating
go slow, when u find the right spot just stay on it.
Use your neck and shoulders and head.
Lick the alphabet and focus on the letter “t”.
Thanks Sam! RIP
Teasing is good. Biting the inside of the thighs and that spot right where the inner thigh connects is a good one to just gnaw on gently. Once I get to the pussy I like to start by alternately sucking in her labia and massaging it with my lips and tongue. Giving a few long deliberate licks up the entire length, starting from the gouch and ending with my tongue flicking her clit. Then when I want to intensify I like to think of a really sloppy make out session. I engulf as much of her pussy in my mouth as possible, focused on the upper half. And I just open and close my mouth and extend my tongue continuously. Pretending I’m in a make out session with my goal to soak the person’s face (ironically the exact opposite of how you should actually make out).
That’s all build up and then the tricky part is when she’s getting closer. I’ve experienced all types of girls. Some like hard slow pressure, some like when the tip of your tongue flicks back and forth while barely making contact, some love fast, some love slow, some love when I suck their clit into my mouth and lightly graze my teeth as I let it out. This is where you need to explore and experiment with it. I liken it to safe cracking. There are so many different combinations and you have to keep testing the pins until you find the right technique that’ll open that particular lock. Part of why I love eating pussy. The challenge that comes with it.
And also as a bonus (and this isn’t every girl) but with girls who don’t get overly sensitive and can cum multiple times if you keep pressure on the clit after they orgasm and gently increase motion you can sometimes bring them to multiple and depending on the girl that can lead to several or in some cases a really long drawn out rolling one.
The key is to just enjoy it and lose yourself in it. Just like when a girl is giving a guy head; it’s obvious when it’s forced and not enjoyed. Enthusiasm is key to making the girl feel comfortable and turned on. And if they aren’t in the right mental head space they might not be able to get there to finish.
You know where the clit is, lightly pinch it between two fingers so it sticks up, and kinda suck on it a bit. Sensitivity can vary so be warned, but it feels great once you’re getting at it
Yes, the ‘oral’ part is very important. But be sure to take care of the rest of her body – her skin, her breasts & nipples, her butt-cheeks, her tummy and sides, her thighs, her hands, pretty much anything you can reach with your arms – throat, jaw and so forth.
I can imagine using hands to hold her arms at her sides so she can’t squirm very much – hold tite!!
And I know it’s called ‘oral’ sex – but take time to lift up from your ministrations on her pussy and tell her how wonderful she is, how good she tastes, how soft her skin is.
Use a wide tongue. Let her come to your mouth. Breathe on her. Ask her to put it on your face. She’ll show you what pleases her. Then start taking over. Using the information she’s given you with her movements.
With a sharp knife
Stay in whatever lane you are in long enough to get an orgasm. Too much variation can cause near hits on getting her to cum. Most folks know where the G spot is, but also try to get her in the A and P spots. If she likes anal she’ll probably like the P spot.
Finally an orgasm is not an entirely physical experience, be sure to give her some dirty talk and figure out what puts her over the edge. Some people have praise kinks, others want to be degraded, and if you aren’t sure on either of those tell her how beautiful she is and just let her know you enjoy her and the act.
Get your mouth as close as you can, the less you have to stretch your tongue out the longer you can go before your tongue gets sore or tired
Kiss thighs, lick thighs, like and kiss the other. Slowly move in, tease a little, give a nice long slow lick from bottom to top, kiss it. Keep tongue moist, give attention to all parts, all four labia, clit, vagina, make her cum a few times and she becomes sensitive go for the clit, hold her down and go to town for a bit till she is screaming and squirming OR deny her the orgasm and move lower and slide the tongue into her pussy.
Or you can ask her “you like when I do this or that?”
Ask my boyfriend. Whatever he’s started doing lately feels amazing and I’ve cum every time he’s gone down on me. I think it is a combination of communication and fully trusting and being secure with my boyfriend. I can’t enjoy myself if I don’t feel like I can voice what I like or if I feel insecure about the relationship. Since things have changed for the better, I am having a lot more orgasms and I love him more than ever. I guess my take away is to ask what she likes, try things and ask for feedback!
I can only tell you what works on my wife, really. But I have had 13 years to hone the craft.
As everyone else in this thread has said, start slow. You could start by kissing the inside of her thighs, teasing your tongue up closer to her vagina. (Slow down the closer you get to build anticipation). Then just barely drag the broad side of your tongue from bottom to top, like you’re licking the world’s most delicate ice cream cone. Gradually pick up the pace and get more animated as you go, keeping that same broad tongue and bottom to top motion and being sure to go over the entire clit. Make sure she knows how much you’re enjoying yourself down there. Don’t forget you have hands, too. You can sink your fingers into her thighs, press her legs apart, or use your fingers to spread her pussy lips, sometimes she’ll do that for you so you can use your hands elsewhere.
When you find the spot, and she’ll let you know when you do, DON’T CHANGE ANYTHING.
JUST KEEP DOING THAT THING AT THAT PACE.
Have her take an edible beforehand and see what happens. If you’re already good, she might explode while being a little high
Start like a butterfly gently kissing a flower, finish like a hungry bulldog plowing through a bowl of oatmeal
from the back
In my experience, every woman likes it a little different. You have to be able to read your partner to see what they like. But don’t stress over it. Kick back and enjoy exploring. If you rush it, she’ll feel your energy and wont be able to relax and it won’t go anywhere.
Slowly.
Plenty of fluid (even take a swig of water every once and a again.
Slow.
Full lick over the clit. Pause. Again. Pause. Sometimes use middle finger for clit vibration. Sometimes middle finger soft insert.
Gradually speed up.
Just when she thinks you’re going to speed up, slow down. Makes her go crazy.
Keep rotating.
Eventually middle finger goes deep, to the G spot.
If you can get your middle finger to the G spot slowly up and down, while slowly and fully licking the clit, she’s yours.
Keep it slow.
Imagine a flower blossoming. You can’t force it. Imagine a butterfly landing on your shoulder, you’re not going to grab it. You’re going to gently hold out your hand and let it come to you.
Slowly, gently. Even when she wants more. That’s when you’ve got her. Then you feel the explosion. Try to get it all over your face. And tell her to do that. She loves that.
Hottest is like a finger or two inside and licking the clit honestly actual tongue in the hole just grosses me out it’s too wet and slimy. Not at all sexy just my preference tho
In my experience some women like the clit being sucked. Also using a dildo at the same time gets my partner off big time