I’m[22M] at a point where I want a relationship, but dating isn’t even remotely an enjoyable experience for me anymore, even to think about.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m all for gay & lgbtq+ pride, and ppl exploring their sexualities, but in my opinion, it’s caused such an imbalance in the dating market. Since statistically women are far more likely to be gay or bisexual than men, it’s made it so there are a large amount of straight men chasing fewer and fewer straight women.
Normally, this wouldn’t bug me, it’s been this way for a while. But it just seems to be getting so bad. It’s at a point where you need to put in so much upfront effort to get any given girl to even consider you while at the same time not getting emotionally attached at all for weeks because you need to have the expectation she’s doing the same thing with a number of other guys and be ok with her just randomly throwing you out in favour of someone else at any given time.
The amount of times this has happened to me is insane. Don’t get me started w online dating, it’s this on steroids.
& I get it, I understand I have value to a partner. It’s just starting to feel like dating isn’t an enjoyable exp anymore, it feels like I’m constantly in a race to prove myself as being superior than others to someone who’s constantly judging me, with the likelihood of her just throwing me out at any given time and it feels like it’s just going to get worse. Thoughts?
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I mean It really depends on what your social bubble looks like man. I understand on where your coming from where sexuality is becoming more and more of hot topic but imo its not the main culprit of why dating is so scarce. I think it advertise alot in terms of sexuality but I don’t it eliminated some of available straight women . I think you just need a different approach maybe.
Jesus, you’re so entitled. As a lgbtq woman, you have no idea how lucky you are to be a straight dude. There are so many straight women out there ffs.
I love that you it alternative solution to these bisexual women embracing their sexuality is for them to stay in the closet and just date men.
Just ignore what other people are doing and improve yourself. Everything else is a waste of time. Focus on you without placing blame on yourself, it’s the only thing that you can really control