Hey. I(30m) married to wife(29f) for over 5 years. She has cheated on me few times, we pulled out of it every time but she recently cheated on me while was away for Christmas with family, was devastated when I found out and we both decided to seek professional help, caught her talking to same guy again after 10 days and this time she told me that she don’t feel like working on things or not talking to him. She expressed its her issues that make her do these things, my acceptance and love bothers her cuz I know about her flaws and she pretend to be nice and all to this guy and that makes her feel wanted. She’s visiting the town this guy is from for a concert, she told me she don’t want me to come along, she wanna learn how to be happy by herself. I just wanna know from women’s prospective that what kinda situation is she in!! Thanks for reading this🙏🙏
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She doesn’t know what love is. She thought she did, but she does not.
Wow. She needs therapy and you….maybe need to realize she’s not gonna stop.
Wow. She needs therapy and you….maybe need to realize she’s not gonna stop.
Leave. Seriously.
She cheats because there are no consequences. You let her. Just leave buddy. It’s ok and you will be ok.
The actual issue is …. she’s a cheater?
What other answer are you hoping for?
I’m not a woman, but she thinks she’s in a situation where she can have her cake and eat it too and you won’t do a damn thing about it.
Apparently, she’s right. Don’t walk, RUN!
Bro, Shes not going to stop cheating on you cause you’re not leaving lol. Why are you still with her?
Man, she got out of the marriage a long time ago. Don’t try to fix something that can’t be fixed.
JUST FACTS. Neither in life, nor on the Internet, including on Reddit subs, I have not met cases of true reconciliation in the realm of feelings (love, respect, friendship, purity of relationships) either in the short or long term. Trust was restored in the best case I’ve ever met, by no more than 98% 20 years after D-Day.
I also met several posts and comments in which victims of cheating 30 – 35 years after the beginning of the “reconciliation” claimed that if it were possible to turn back the clock, they would undoubtedly leave the cheaters no matter what.
From time to time, there are also posts in which victims of cheating brag that after spending several decades with cheaters, they are happy. However, it follows from their posts that they never forgot anything, that they had more or less strong anxieties about the fidelity of cheaters, that the feelings they had experienced in their relationships with cheaters before the affair never returned to them. In addition, the question arises of their constant participation in subs dedicated to infidelity throughout the infinite period of their reconciliation: if everything is so good, then why do they continue to stay in these specific communities? In addition, these “lucky ones” of course do not know what the cheaters themselves truly think about the “happy reconciliation”, coz cheaters, of course, pour into the ears of their victims what they want to hear.
I have seen examples on the Internet of a true successful reunion of former partners after cheating, but ONLY AFTER A COMPLETE BREAKUP OF THEIR RELATIONSHIP (DIVORCE) AND AFTER MANY YEARS (5 or more years) OF INDEPENDENT LIFE WITHOUT MUTUAL OBLIGATIONS. In all cases, they were essentially a new relationship from scratch.