I was thinking about this whenever people compared dating with looking for a job.
I’ve been looking for a job five times since I graduated for different reasons and it’s actually not that bad:
– I can get back to some companies that already contacted me once and usually they’re still interested
– I get relatively clear requirements what qualifications they’re looking for
– both sides make a roughly equal effort to arrange dates and get to know each other
– if they’re interested, they clearly tell you
So job searching is easily my favorite. If dating where anything like thar, it would be paradise.
And looking for a decent place to live is often just as hard. Very few good options and a lot if competition, even for the mediocre ones.
What is it like for you guys?
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From easiest to most difficult: job, apartment, partner
The answer to all three depends on A. Desperation level B. Resume and/or credit report which is kind of like a resume, and C. How much money you have.
Apartment of course. They are everywhere and the business model is renting them out.
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A job by far, then apartment, and never a partner.
An apartment. I’ve always been able to find something, less true with a partner or job. I’ve always worked but when I’ve looked for a better job while working a shitty one, I can’t quite find good replacements.
Dating is more like buying a car than getting a job or apartment
I have loving partner for years now but we both dealing with visas and bureaucratic issues. I keep looking for a better one but currently I have a shitty/stressful job and apartment until end of august. I’m really uncertain about everything, I feel like everything is hard these days with current economic situation. To answer your question, it all depends on your circumstances.
In the case of all three, it’s a matter of how much effort you put in versus how well you manage your expectations.
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Probably an apartment. I just have to pass a basic credit check and show that I have the income in most cases. Easy peasy.
A job is next easiest but more complicated because I have to actually prove myself qualified AND beat out other applicants. But I already have recruiters in my inbox through linkedin. I reckon I could find a new job inside a month depending on how picky I am.
Dating is orders of magnitude harder than the others because it has all the complications of finding a job, but I don’t have any women in my “inbox.” Just getting the “interview” is a ton of work and I don’t seem to have the same desirable traits according to women that I do for employers.
Apartment, then partner, then job. I swear 90% of job postings aren’t actually looking, they’re just recruiters or HR filling some sort of posting quota
An apartment is easiest
Then job which is also easy
Then gf (assuming it’s a gf I want and not just a gf to have one)
All are easy, depending on your criteria. There are options out there, but you don’t have to like them.
Apartment -> Job ————————————-> Dating
For me, it’s a job. I drop and get new jobs like it’s nothing.
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2. Apartment
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∞. Partner
Finding an apartment is easy if you have a job, so I’ll go with apartment is easier than job is easier than girlfriend. I work in tech and have useful experience, so a job isn’t the end of the world either, but I’ve met like 2 women around my age this year
Job then apartment then gf. I can’t seem to find girlfriend
Jobs aren’t easy but I’ve managed to snag a few here and there over the years. Nada for the other two.
I’m order of ease Job > apartment > partner
I’ve known guys who are jobless and sleep on a friend’s couch get a different girl every weekend, and guys with top paying jobs and own a house free and clear but can’t get a partner
A job
An apartment my dad helped me but my biggest goal is ownership