Kind of a click-baity title (I know I’m sorry!), but I wasn’t sure what else to put and hopefully it will make sense and be relevant after this post.
I don’t particularly enjoy regular anal sex. I guess in the way that you’re supposed to, you know well lubed, working up slowly, ect ect. I get so much more arousal and pleasure out of the toy/object being just slightly too big for me with no prep and there being just barely any lube. I don’t enjoy pain/bdsm type stuff, but there’s just something different about this type of pain sensation that’s different to me. This way has been the only way I have been able to orgasm entirely from anal with no other stimulation.
So with that out of the way I guess I’m looking for some advice. How can I learn to enjoy it the safer way? Is there any guides you all can recommend for proper gape/stretching techniques for working up to large toys? A lot of what I have read just amounts to “take your time, use lots of lube, go slow, if it hurts stop” and I have some issues with this due to my circumstances. I try to take it slow and usually spend at least 2 hours (more when available)during a normal session. When I use “lots” of lube a lot just leaks out and feels like it gets wasted, while also dulling the sensations and not feeling as good. I’m also not sure if it’s too much or not enough at times even then. How much is too much and how can you tell? The “pain” I get from it usually feels good, but is probably bad and I’m not sure at times when I should be feeling pain. I’ve never really had much sensitivity back there like most people, but I know the difference of actual PAIN that I know I should monitor and stop playing for a few days.
I feel like maybe none of it is enough and I could still be causing more harm than anything back there… How can I get more enjoyment out of doing it the “proper” way?
Sorry if any of it doesn’t make sense, I can try to clarify in the comments if you have any questions on anything.
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Nothing wrong with not enjoying anal sex. It is a part of the body that evolved to be an exit not an entrance and it is not a sexual organ.
Why do you want to enjoy it if your body is clearly telling you ‘meh’?
I 100% get this. For me, the best Anal is where I am begging him to use more lube, it feels amazing. It doesn’t sound like you’re actually hurting yourself though, so it’s not really a problem.
A good way to maintain the sensation AND protect you a bit more is to have him constantly apply small drops of lube.
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