I honestly feel like crap saying this. We are both 26 and we are both in shape and I think fairly attractive. He is black and I’m white. Maybe he is a tad more attractive to me but honestly every time we are out he has to do NOTHING and girls come flocking to him. He showed me his DMs the other day and there were at least 40 girls messaging him that he had not even opened their DMs. I on the other hand don’t get much options despite having a job that pays more than 200k and he makes 50k for comparison. I have my stuff together and it’s like I get no options I don’t understand. I’ve talked to him about it and I just don’t know. I have a feeling alot of the white girls that message him maybe want to fulfill a sexual kink honestly. Because I’ve seen the messages that they send him and it is pretty sexual and nobody has ever done that for me. Im honestly getting jealous. Last night we were at the bar and 3 girls came to us and literally 2 of them started talking to him and backed me. I tried to talk to the other one and she made a scene about having a boyfriend. My “friend” didn’t even stand up for me in front of the girls and he kept chatting with them. He ended up having sex with them last night. Like I don’t fucking know what I’m missing. I make near a quarter million dollars a year, I’m a nice guy and I’m worth 2 mln dollars in real estate, stocks, cash but my dating is shit. Btw not a racist or anything…
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He must be a lot more attractive then you. Lol.
Do you have a girl friend who you could ask what her opinion of the situation is?
It’s not about how much money you make or any of that. It’s not just because he’s black. He likely has some kind f charisma and charm that is helping him get more women. I’ve dated black men and it wasn’t due to any fetish or kink
I don’t think it’s a race thing if the way women treat you two are so different. He is likely just very very attractive while you are more average (which there is nothing wrong with).
I wouldn’t be quick to blame the reason why he is pulling more than you is due to his skin color (which on it’s own, is a racist ass remark XD) I will however agree that maybe the girls do have a sort of kink for a black guy, but if he is gaining more attention it may be due to the way he presents himself or has a natural charismatic approach.
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You didn’t give us much context about how YOU are with the ladies. Does he have more swag than you? Is he better dressed, smooth talking, and smiling with an upright posture?
It doesn’t matter about how much you make dude until you’re in a serious relationship. You seem to be projecting insecurities through this post and it’s saddening you think the reason he’s pulling more is because he’s black.
My advice is this, if you are worried about him pulling more girls than you, you need to straighten out your priorities in life. Especially at 26 years old.
Maybe hanging out with a really attractive friend all the time is making you seem like the less attractive one when by yourself you probably not. So maybe try going out alone and not always have your friend next to you.
> I make near a quarter million dollars a year, I’m a nice guy and I’m worth 2 mln dollars in real estate, stocks, cash but my dating is shit.
Women don’t actually care about how much money you make. While a small fraction of women may be trying to fulfill a kink, it’s more than likely that he’s much more extroverted and social than you. Believe it or not, attitude is the #1 factor when meeting a partner.
I know he’s your friend, but it’s probably best you hang out with him less. Don’t compare yourself to other people. Women can sense your insecurity.
It’s time to take a hard look at yourself and think about what you can do differently. Consider a different method of dating… maybe picking up girls at bars isn’t your forte.
Are you telling anyone about your finances. Do you dress the same way? Exhibit the same confidence? I imagine he’s got a vibe about him that you don’t. Sure it could racially motivated and this idea that he’s a hot black guy and out of their ‘norm’ in terms of dating or hooking up and you’re, well, basic. But I also them imagine he’s not dating most of these women, he’s hooking up, but pretty sure the biggest culprit is he’s more attractive and more importantly more confident and that comes across.
Confidence goes a long way and you seem to lack some. You might come off as desperate and needy when you are out. And stop with the money aspect. It’s kinda douchey to see you brag about it and yeah, if you think making a lot of money should be a sure fire way to get a girl, well you will get a lot of gold diggers at your heels. And saying that he gets girls because he’s black IS racist because you’re making him out to be a novelty when you say that.