I was finally in my first healthy relationship for 3 years now. For the last year, we’ve been talking about getting serious but realize we have different goals if we ever married. I have bad trauma and decided to be child-free, but his culture expects him to have children right away. We both knew someday we had to end this, but still hesitant about it. He said he still loves me so no reason to break up now.
I want to help him with his study like how he helped with mine (I graduate first). I also want to help ease his depression now as he did with mine 2 years ago. I choose to stay now because I love him and knew I could directly help him while I’m still his gf (compared to if we broke up)
Have you ever in a similar situation? How do you cope/prepare yourself when you know that day will come?
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Friends/classmates can help him with school. The therapist can help him with depression.
Love isn’t enough to make a mismatched relationship work. You know you won’t work out long term. Just end it now.
IF you want to stay together until he is ready to find someone to marry and have kids with, do you BUT! I want you to be VERY conscious of your birth control methods.
Do not rely on him to pull out, check your condoms frequently, and do not leave any oral contraceptives unattended. He could potentially try to sabotage them to force you to have a child.