I may be overthinking but would still like your opinion on the matter.
Backstory is in order; no tldr sorry.
Questions will be at the bottom.
I met my crush 6 months ago in the gym. We have the same personal trainer and were usually scheduled one after the other. When I finished my session, she had hers etc..
My trainer built a personal gym at home and we started working out there. He has his schedule pretty full so sometimes he puts two of his trainees together so he can have more sessions in a day.. Two months ago we were put together(me and the crush). We kind of clicked and have been working out together for about 10 sessions now. We are borh a little “wack” and there have been days when we laughed and messed around more than we actually trained lol. She is usually paired with other girls but both of us dont mind if he trains us together. We are some kind of exception I guess.
I was crushing on her since the 3rd session together and a week ago I finally asked her out. She said yes. We both like to hike so I asked her out on a nearby trail wich we both know and its pretty nice. I did offer alternatives(coffee, nearby public park) since hike for a first date may be little too much for some women but she agreed to it.
We didnt set the specific time and day because she works at a highway gas station and has a different schedule every week(3 morning shifts then 2 afternoon and 2 night shifts then a few days off, I dont know exactly but its something like that). Her weekend can be in the middle of the week.
I originaly asked if this weekend was ok but she already had plans with family and she said she will be in touch about the time and day and asked me about my work schedule( I work 3 shifts).
We then texted for two or threee days and flirted a little but then I kindly wished her a nice day and said to notify me when she was free and ready to go( I engaged convo over text and she mostly replied or countinued the conversation based on my text, but she never texted first). Even though I wanted to text her everyday and get to know her more I decided to stop texting and wait untill the date so we can get to know eachother in person because its seems more genuine to me.
We come to a point where my questions (imo purely based on my overthinking) arrive. But I may be wrong so thats why I need your help.
1. While we workout she never really sends those “signals” that she is romatically interested in me. I made it clear I was when asking her out. But I dont think much of it since we do pay for a service there when we train and I get why she doesnt want to flirt or be touchy/feely when our trainer is present. And I get it because im kind of the same and act actappropriately, but I do give her a stare now and then because I cant help it. She looks really good and I guess my hormones kick in. This is a question because I eatlest expected a little eye contact or something when we are there. But she tends to look away. Whats your opinion? Be direct.(question 3. relates to this one, so please read that one too).
2. When we stoped texting(I said goodbye etc..) we did agree we should be in touch but she doesnt text first. This is where my overthinking goes into overdrive. 4 days have passed and still nothing. I dunno, I expected a text in the meanwhile without me engaging it. I had the intention of asking her how her week was in today’s evening and am not sure if that would be ok or would it seem like im to desperate for her attention?
3. This relates to the first question. Since I asked her out, while we train( 2 sessions) she is very flirty with our trainer. Holds direct eye contact, touches his muscles. When he spotted me while doing pushdowns on a machine she jokingly massaged his back. Stuff like that. But he is a very friendly guy and you can talk with him about everything. Now I know for a fact that she knows the guy is unavailable because he is in a good relationship with his girlfriend of 5 years and he makes it clear to all women he trains that he is taken and all stuff is purely platonical beetween them. We are good friends( cca. 3 years now) and we walk our dogs together almost every week so I know this personaly from him. One night stands are a big no no for him. He stoped training one girl because she didnt take no for an answer. So on one hand I know that there is nothing but on the other hand she shows interest in him that I wish she showed on me. Hence the first question. I really dont know what to make of this.
In my dating “time” I messed up three potential dates already because of my overthinking and began being to needy very early and put them on a pedestal. I had very low confidence until I was 22 because I was 70 pounds heavier then and the dating scene is still pretty new to me. I had a girlfriend for a year but we broke up few months ago due to completly different interest so im not a complete virgin with relationships. With this girl I actually have a lot in common and would really like this to work out.
Thanks for bearing with me and your responses.