When did you realise you needed to change your way in life? And how did you do it?

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1. After playing decades of traditional Golf and spending tens of thousands of dollars on it, I discovered disc golf and now that’s all I ever play or think about.

   Not only is it a lot cheaper because the vast majority of courses are free, it’s got a wonderful community of people who play it and bottom line for me Disc Golf is a lot more fun because I can do a lot more with the flight of a disc than I can with a ball.

2. After 5 years with good behavior……

3. Finishing college and had to REALLY decide what I wanted to do with my life. No more putting off the inevitable. But what happened in that same moment was, I met a girl. A very very special girl. I saw my future with her and that caused me to get really serious about a lot of things. So it was fortuitous that it all happened at the same time.

4. Several years ago, I was/am an alcoholic, if I keep going the way I used to, I would not reach age 50 and the manner in which would hurt me and everyone that ever cared for me immensely. I drank daily, and still relapse from time to time, but it’s come very close to liver failure and I’ve seen that happen to others, it is a long, drawn-out process that I would not want to see happen to anyone else, least of all myself.

5. College Part 1- I was not prepared and bombed early. Thankful I had parents who had me in check and though at the time I was mad about it, they yanked me from school and I finished at a commuter college and worked during that time – helped a lot on the discipline side of things in general.

   College Part 2: worked in a career for a huge chunk of my twenties and just wasnt feeling it long term. Went back to school and got a Master’s degree – has worked out nicely; I enjoy the line of work, the mission of the work, and feel there are enough opportunities and challenges to sustain me. Pripr college/work really prepared me for fulltime work and schooling all at once here – still mad at the one B+ in Admin. Law 😂

   Really, Bad Work Environment: Had a job that completely demoralized me and in turn not just questioned my work/career side but just myself in general. Have since moved on and it has really helped me put a lot of various things in perspective and I am all the better from it.

6. Living paycheck to paycheck for my entire adulthood. I am changing that by joining the military. I ship out next week

7. I was a really rebellious teenager, in and out of juvenile detention a few times for drugs, and fighting. My parents were gone a lot and I fell in with a bad crowd and really didn’t care about school or my future and just thought I’d let life take me wherever it did necause nothing really mattered. When I was 16 someone came to buy weed from a friend I was hanging out with and brought his girlfriend along. She was the absolute prettiest girl I have ever seen, and I don’t mean hott in some trophy partner way, just that she was nice, friendly, and for whatever reason I could see my entire future with her almost immediately. I saw a life with more happiness and depth than I could’ve imagined. And I’m still not sure how it just immediately struck me that way but it did. I quickly figured out that if I was ever going to have someone like her in my life that I needed to bring more to the table and be more than some burnout that I currently was. So I spent the rest of my high school period working harder, took my grades more seriously, and pursued a real career with a better future than I ever cared about before.

8. When I was in prison.

   Had the time and the nothing else to do but ponder over how, I as an intelligent and capable person, continually fucked myself over.

   Got out. A much calmer and more IDGAF person. I walk slower, more deliberate. And just have utterly no desire to communicate with someone whom I don’t see green flags on.

   Life’s too short for all the shit and shit people I was involved with.

9. 19 years old. I moved 1000 miles away and cut everyone off. It’s been 12 years of growth since then and I’m still going, but I’m a completely different person now. My girlfriend has straight up told me that had she met me back then, she wouldn’t have even considered dating me (and I couldn’t blame her)

10. Back before the turn of the century (I love saying that) I was all “dude weed, lmao, 420 blaze it 4 lyfe” and I was donating plasma to pay my bills. A lot of my friends were getting into computers, so I kind of tagged along, got some certs, got a job, got a degree, got a better job, and kept going up from there.

11. I regret my whole life and accept I wont change it.