(26f) Last night I hooked up with my boyfriend for the first time after being celibate for months. Before it had almost been 3 years since I’ve been intimate with anyone. Mostly because of insecurities about my body. I’m a chubby girl so my body has always been something I’m not proud of. Last night he was kissing me all over and didn’t care about my belly or anything. His dick felt so amazing! I’ve never been that comfortable with anyone sexually ever. I take anti-depressants, so cumming can be a struggle. Although I love everything about him in bed I’m kinda afraid to use my toys while he fucks me. I don’t want him to feel like he isn’t enough. What should I do?
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I welcome toys and it wouldn’t affect my confidence. I also am pretty confident in general. Hopefully he will understand that toys are friends not enemies (or substitutes) but lots of men still don’t get that. Maybe have a convo outside of a sexual environment where you can explain to him that you like to use toys during sex.
Talk to him about it! I’d be down for a girl I’m seeing to use toys. Just not the first few times though, I thinks it’s rude to introduce it that early on. Make sure he’s comfortable fucking you without it first, before suggesting it.
Most people don’t post negative responses on here on this subject because you’re ripped apart as an insecure freak if you don’t like toys but the real world isn’t as sex positive as this place is. You will only find out ifv ou ask though so maybe simply ask him about his thoughts on exploring beyond standard sex and see what he suggests. That might give you a sense of what he’s into and some clues as to what to suggest for the next stage of play. If he’s really not keen, be understanding and maybe turn the conversation towards something like a cock ring first that makes him fully and directly involved in the experience before moving towards more adventurous stuff.