After reading a lot of advice from you guys, I would like to ask for your advice as well.
I (M30) have been dating a young lady (F28) since February. We have already done various things together, go for walks, do sports together and have already held movie nights. I know from her that she will not make the first move. Problematic, since I also have problems to make the first move due to my last relationship, but I slowly keep trying.. After far too many meetings I discreetly sought physical contact, took her in my arms, hand or cuddled with her. I also suggest activities on my own, hardly any ideas from her side. When we meet, we laugh a lot and in MY OPINION have a good time. Problems have not surfaced or been addressed so far.
Now it is so that after the meetings also everything is good, but I get a day later messages that she does not know whether this is still something between us. Meanwhile the third time. Absolutly painful. I do not know how to deal with it. So is she playing something on me during our meetings? Am I missing something? Am I doing something wrong? Unfortunately, nothing comes from her, so no attempt to cuddle, hold my hand or the like. Yet she claims to still be interested. I don’t understand what I should do here. Am I reading the situation wrong? Would appreciate any assessment…
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Flirt and escalate.
Ask her… have a conversation. Ask if she likes when you try to hold her hand and cuddle, etc. Should you continue doing that stuff or does she want to be the one to initiate when she’s ready? Tell her you like her and want to grow the relationship but also don’t want to put pressure so you feel in limbo and wanna learn where she’s at.
Women in my experience want a guy who knows how to make things happen. So mate if you don’t actually escalate things and kiss her she will get brief simple as that’s And no women won’t typically tell you what you should do, they expect you to know and lead or else they find some other guy who knows already