It been 3 years and I’m still traumatized of the past. My ex who is my first serious relationship where I decided to be with her instead of FWB.
I thought she was the one lol. Anyway, I met her at our university and things went well. She really “liked” me and was the one putting in the effort. I started to like her because of how she was as a person. She was kind, smart, and funny. She wanted to be with me but I turned her down and said I wasn’t ready. After a week, I decided to give her a chance and we started dating from then. She would go back to her hometown and soon started to hangout with a guy. I didn’t care and told her I’m cool with it.
In the end, it backfired and I was devastated. We were together for about 2 years, and she took advantage of my kindness. I remembered visiting her family for the last time, and her mom started to cry asking what happened etc.
To this day, my ex would reach out to me at times saying, I’m the best thing to have happen for her and she regrets everything. Funny enough that dude ended up cheating on her. She tried to get back with me but I told her we need to go our own way and grow apart. Us being together will not make us grow. Every since I told her that, she stopped trying which is good.
To the present, I find it very hard for me to commit myself a relationship since that incident. I met amazing women but just couldn’t be with them which hurted them and see me as a “player.” Have anyone gone through this? If so, how did you get passed this phase?
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My current bf went through something similar in his past before he met me. You have to find a woman who loves you, wants to be with you, respects you, and is willing to wait for you to trust her. Those lingering doubts will never truly go completely away, but they fade to nearly nothing after time. If you wish, you can message him here or Discord. PM me if you want his handle to talk.