So basically me (20F) and this guy (21M) started with a friends with benefits type thing about a month ago (I lost my virginity to him) but I think both of us have caught feelings. The first time we had sex I definitely felt the post-nut clarity thing from him (he sort of moved to the other side of the bed and didn’t really touch me for about 5 mins after but then we cuddled a bit, but this is before any feelings had developed) and last night we had sex after 2 weeks of not seeing each other and after both times of him orgasming, he was SO affectionate with me, he literally wrapped himself around me straight after and kept calling me all sorts of cute names and saying how much he likes me etc… i was expecting proper post-nut clarity but it was literally the complete opposite. We’ve been speaking more outside of when we hook up so we’ve formed a bit of a bond. But still, I thought post-nut clarity was where the guy gets really turned-off/grossed out by the girl? What does this mean that he was so affectionate instead of everything I’ve read online?
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M65. I have never had post nut clarity. I have post nut romance and infatuation that kind of thing.
I’d say post nut clarity is something you experience after you do it by yourself. Nuting in another human being makes you post nut romantic.
He loves you
I thought post-nut clarity is usually used to describe the situation where after you orgasm, suddenly the fantasies or activities that were super hot a second ago, are now kind of repulsive.
Regardless, men are not all the same, and they aren’t robots that act the same way every time. Maybe sometimes he wants to roll over and sleep. Maybe other times he will want to cuddle.
If you liked the cuddles, make sure you tell him. If you want cuddles next time, tell him that too. For years, I have been tapping out after orgasm, and none of my partners said a thing. I would have been cuddling the shit out of them or trying for round too, but no one ever asked. (Also, I should have tried offering once in a while).
If you want to know about your partner, ask them, not us! 🙂