So I’m 32 and lost a lot of weight. A 154 pounds, I now weight a 154, which is fun.
Of course I’m left with a lot of loose skin, like a lot. Think the obese to beast guy if you know who that is only I don’t look as good as him as I’m not ripped. Anyways I think it looks bad, really bad.
So I guess my question is there any point trying to date? I know people say looks don’t matter it personality, but I’d like to be attracted to someone I’m with, I think a lot of people would. And I know people say its your personality that makes you attractive, but I was slim once and had relationships. Then I was obese and got no interest. Now I’m slim again with a deeply deformed body but the same personalitym it wasn’t good enough to overcome being fat in people’s eyes, why would it be good enough to overcome this which arguably looks worse.
So yeah? Should I give up? Try and get ripped, even though it only really makes a tiny bit of difference? Would you date a man or woman with severe loose skin and if so do you think you could be attracted to then on a physical level, or do you think it’d kind of be a massive thing you’d have to constantly overlook?
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Congratulations on your weight loss, let’s just start with that. What an achievement 👏👏
You could talk to a doctor and see what your options are regarding surgery. From what I read just now, body lift surgery is sometimes covered by the NHS. As your case is extreme after losing 154 pounds, I’d guess that you have a better chance than most at having the surgery covered.
So how much weight did you lose? There was a typo and you said your current weight of 154 twice.
It’s impressive that you lost that much weight and shows an amazing amount of dedication and willpower. I think you should date. Some guys won’t be attracted, but that doesn’t mean nobody will. All sorts of people find love regardless of what their bodies look like. Trying to meet guys in person and building connections first may give you a better chance than online dating.
I’m a guy so take this with a grain of salt.
I think the loose skin would be a turn off for me.
That said, I’m not the kind of guy who focuses only on the appearance of the person. Yes, I have to find her attractive, but my attractiveness meter is heavily skewed towards the face and my body types go from skinny to chubby.
Being overweight myself and just starting my weight loss journey, I would likely be very impressed by a woman who would have lost that much weight because of the efforts and will it takes and that would definitely weigh (pun intended) in the balance.
So overall, I don’t think that would prevent me from dating someone.