Hello, me (18m) have been talking with this girl (19f) for around a year, how ever the past month things have escalated. We go to parties regularly and make out and so on. How ever she recently slept over at my place. Where we just started kissing and making out. And things escalated, and she was on top of me and took my hand and placed them on her boobs, And so on. I really felt like she wanted to have sex. But I dint know how to ask. What’s the best way? Do I say something like “do we just do it” or do I ask her straight up if she wants to have sex?
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Hey man Similar situation to that when I was 18. I didn’t know how to make that move and jump to take it to the next level. Eventually she asked me if we could have sex. I asked her later what I should have done. She told me to just ask if she wants to go further? SO what I would do is say do you want to go further? If she says remove her shirt and bra. The rest should take care of itself. If that doesnt work just tell her you have me so hard…. That should get her curious and signal you want more. Consent is important, but if you talk too much and ask too many questions it forces the issue and is a turnoff just play it cool, read her body language and say things that hint what you are looking for. She will pick up on it. If she seems eager go ahead and continue if not back off. Stick with just making out and try again another time. Recap ask if she wants to go further… if thats not enough tell her your turned on
“How far do you want this to go?”
She very obviously wants it to go SOMEWHERE; placing your hand on her titty while she’s on top of you is as green as green lights get. (I like her.)
So, does she just want you playing with her boobs through her top? Does she want ’em out in the open? Does she want to get full nudity? Hand stuff? Oral sex? PiV bangin’?
You can guess and read tea leaves and hit-up randos on Reddit for advice all day, but the only person who knows for certain is her. You need to ask her.
Because while there are plenty of occasions where it’s upsetting and inappropriate for you to ask a woman if she wants to have sex with you, it is an extremely reasonable thing to ask of a woman who got on top of you and put your hand on her titty.
Equally important: how far do YOU want this to go? Do you feel like you’re ready for sex? Your boundaries and needs count for just as much as hers.
But first:
“How far do you want this to go?”
See what she says, go from there.
Good luck, mate.