Friends with morals

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1. Not immediately, I would definitely talk to them about it first and figure out what their motivation for doing so was.

2. Generally yes; I would dump a douchey friend – for all kinds of reasons besides infidelity. There’s a lot of moral ambiguity in the world, and each deserves their own trial for each offense… but I’m generally not friends with shitty people. No matter how nice/manipulative they are to me. I’m a good friend and I have high standards for my friends. I’d also rather spend time alone than with someone untrustworthy.

3. I’m not a fan… But it’s just their lifes.

   There is this girl who is my friend, really close friend, and she has a boyfriend. Sometimes she likes to get a bit drunk, for then flirting and kissing other girls and boys (boys rarely, 98% of times they were gay).

   The bf is okay with this (unless she goes further i guess) the fact is she tried with me sometimes to get a french kiss, i just rejected her (but a friend of mine didnt).

   Honestly i have morals for this. Even if he doesnt care (last time, she said clearly to him she wanted to kiss me), her bf is also a friend of mine too, less than her, but anyway i dont want to be in this situation. I wouldn’t like this if it was the opposite lol

4. No. You aren’t God don’t judge

5. It’s not the responsibility of the person outside the marriage to keep the marriage intact. It’s the responsibility of the people inside it. That’s why they call it “cheating”.

   As far as I’m concerned, hitting on anyone is fair game until you get a no. If the married person didn’t say no, then they’re the ones who are in the wrong here as they are breaking an agreement with their spouse and thereby hurting them; not the person outside the marriage. They’re also potentially leading your friend on. But if the married person did make it very clear that it’s a no, then any further pursuing is harassment.

   That said, there is something to be said about your friend wanting something and going about it the wrong way and it likely won’t have a happy ending for them. And I likely wouldn’t spend too much time with that person not because of any sort of judgement, but because I imagine that they’re not the most emotionally healthy of people and I’m way too much of a positive optimist, and usually unhealthy people end up turning me off from them when we hang out.