How do you show your partners that you love them?

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1. Hug her, kiss her, play with her. I write her love letters, text her cute messages, and tell her how much she means to me. I tell others, too. Oh, yeah: I also proposed.

2. I keep a constant eye on the gas gauge on her car and run it up to the store to keep it filled up so she doesn’t have to deal with that. She’s capable of doing it. It’s just something I do.

3. Cook for them.

4. I’ll write out stupid little poems on special occasions (anniversary, birthday, or sometimes when she just needs a pick-me-up). I also let her choose how my hair gets cut (it means almost nothing to me, and a lot to her, so not something I mind letting her have)

5. Listening

6. I cook. Yes, I like to hig, squeeze, lift, etc, but if I cook for you. I like you. I’m shy about my cooking. And when I ask you if you like it, I’m not inflating my ego, I’m seeing if you’re happy.

7. Cook dinner, change her oil, wash her car, fill it with gas, open tightly closed jars, and kill spiders, wasps, and dragons.

8. Notes in the steam on the bathroom mirror for each other, sometimes I set out the stuff she needs for breakfast before I go to bed, fix stuff as soon as I notice something is broken etc. Just the run of the mill shit really.

9. My favorite is learning her favorite snack, Starbucks order, and surprising her with it randomly. Like when I lived with my ex, once in a while I’ll go running in the morning, stop by the store or Starbucks and buy it for her when she wakes up

10. Do things that need to be done

11. I give her space. It’s not easy, but she prefers her own company or her cats company over anyone else. Sometimes it’s really hard not to double or triple text her. It sucks, but we somehow make it work.

12. I basically become their private car service

13. I buy her music gear and concert tickets

14. Speak their love language.

    I generally think that love language stuff is a bit bs, but people swear by it, and it has been helpful for me a few times.

    My issue is that I find it hard when we have different love languages. Especially if they like something that I don’t appreciate, and I like something that they don’t appreciate.

15. Cooking and baking are two of my most fluent love languages