I (F23) have never been on dates, never dated someone. So when I met this guy and we hit it off, I tried to gather all my courage to make the first move. I offered to spend time outside of work, doing something fun, and he replies with ‘Sure, but we will call it a date.’ I was over the moon! I finally did it, I was going on a date! But both of our schedules were a bit too busy to meet up.
A month later I heard the news that he has had a girlfriend these past two months…. And now I can’t shake the feeling that I did something wrong… Any advice to shake this? Do I confront him?
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You didn’t do anything wrong because you didn’t know.
But now that you do know, you need to let it go – do not pursue this guy.
Bail.
If u ask him if it’s true, he will lie. Then u run the risk of continuing the issue.
If u dog for proof, he will target u negatively.
If u ask me, this isn’t worth it. Just exit stage left. Tell him u don’t think its working out.
As someone else pointed out: You couldn’t know, so it is not your fault.
Don’t confront him but if he ask you out for another date you can ask him if the rumor is true.
If the rumor is true, be happy he is not your bf. (Unless you are up for a polyamorous relationship.)
You didn’t do anything wrong. I applaud you for making the first move. I wish more women would make the first move.
For future reference though, us men are… well, kinda stupid.
Back in 2001, I worked with a girl who had a thing for me. We hung out a lot. I had no idea she liked me (I of course had the hots for her) so we would just kick it. We’d flirt, sure, but even after almost 12 years of marriage, I’m still flirty with my female friends, so that was just normal interactions.
Now, back when I was single, had she just kissed me, just a peck on the lips, our dynamic would have changed.