I always hear people say throat goat, or so and so gives good head or making fun of girls who aren’t good at it. i have a boyfriend i havent done that with him yet just because we are taking things slow. but i just have a fear that i won’t be good at it. people make fun of people who aren’t or girls their first time. i haven’t had the greatest sex education and im just scared i’ll make a fool out of myself.
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Be upfront with your boyfriend, and ask to be eased into it. Ask for honest feedback, and hope that your boyfriend can guide you into what he likes and what he wants. And this extends beyond oral, into anything at all really, sex or not-sex related.
No two people are the same. One man might like a certain technique where others not so much. The best thing is to communicate with each other, and have fun.
You learned how to read by reading. You didn’t start out already knowing the language.
Same concept with blowjobs. You get better with effort on improving. If someone decides to make fun you for it, guess they don’t get any more blowjobs.
It’s all about training.
I was terrible at it at first. So bad that guys would litterally push my head away. It was quite humiliating.
Let’s face it, it’s hard to know how to handle and pleasure a body part we don’t have ourselves. It’s not innate, so don’t feel bad and don’t be sacred to educate yourself. We all went through the same thing. Same for men with the clit, it’s a lot of work for them too.
Find someone mature, caring, communicative, and understanding. Someone who’s willing to give you directions and feedback and who isn’t into humiliating their partner for their lack of technique. You certainly don’t deserve that.
When on your own, you can read articles, and you can even train on a dildo. Do not use a banana or anything that could get stuck in your throat. Do not use numbing gels. You can end up damaging your throat and even choking.
Dont feel too pressured, either. Remember, there are women who don’t practice oral at all. Most men are usually happy when a girl tries. Some actually enjoy communicating and helping girls at getting better.
Well you gotta start somewhere, everyone does. Just be open about it with him, and tell him, if something feels good or not. No one is a pro the first time. Just don’t do anything you’re not comfortable with. Like, most dudes watches porn, so they don’t necessarily have any real experience or realistic expectations, so maybe deepthroating, choking, slapping and all that, often isn’t the best way to approach first timers. AND LET HIM RESPECT YOUR BOUNDARIES. Best advice: don’t use teeth hahah. If you’re like me and have long teeth, try cover them with your upper lip, so you won’t scratch him.
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The number one blow job technique is actually an attitude. It’s…
Enthusiasm
Enthusiasm is by far the most powerful thing you can incorporate into your sex skills AND life. Think about it this for a minute…
When you give your man a blow job (or hand job or have sex with him) while being completely enthusiastic about it and totally focused on him, it’s going to massively arouse and turn him on.
So even if you’re aren’t totally sure about what you’re doing, just focus on being enthusiastic. You’ll be surprised at how much this enhances the experience for your man. You don’t have to give a perfect fuck if you’re really enthusiastic and into it!
WHAT MEN WANT
As you’ll find emphasized in this guide none of these techniques for driving your man crazy in bed are that useful if you feel super awkward and nervous during the act. The same is true when it comes down to what sex positions you use.
It will be a lot more sexually satisfying for your partner if you appear and genuinely feel confident.
To start off i would say If you’re a screamer, scream. Don’t hold back your moans, groans, screams, and growls of pleasure. Men love to hear this— it’s erotic and really turns them on. Not to mention, it’s liberating for you too. Don’t hold back if you’re really feeling it in the moment; It’s just like communicating, only way sexier.
But while having it many men like to have sex with women who actively participate. Actively participating just means meeting his thrusts with your own thrusts, grinding your hips, and flexing your PC muscles (the muscles that stretch from your pubic bone to the tail bone. These are all things you can do from whatever position you’re currently in.
You can also use your hands to squeeze your man’s arms and pull his body closer to yours, or use your lips to explore more of his body—all these moves will let him know you’re loving the action.
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If a girlfriend said to me “I’m afraid I’m not good at this, can I practice on you” I’d probably injure myself getting my pants off. Then I would just let her try all kinds of things and let her know when things felt good to me. Both of us should enjoy it. Only an asshole (man or woman) doesn’t help their partner enjoy themselves. Meaning he should be open to communication with you so that you’re comfortable and happy too. I would say that afterwards I’d want to go down on her and ask her to help me be better.
I’ve had bad experiences with women. I made sure to try to gently let them know what I liked. Only the ones that didn’t take direction stayed bad for me.
Technique isn’t important. Letting him stick it there is the important thing.
I can help you out….By eating all your Oreos