My gf (15) is no longer giving me M(16) any physical affection.
We have been dating for almost 5 months and have been in a situationship for a couple of months before that.
Physical affection is one of my main love languages, it means quite a bit to me because of that.
Me and my gf have an otherwise healthy relationship focused around communication and acceptance of eachother for the imperfect people we are, but lately ive been feeling really neglected, It was all perfectly fine up until a few weeks ago.
So some information you need to know is that her parents are old fashioned, like very old fashioned, like didn’t kiss until they had been dating for 7 months old fashioned. Because of this they think that she and i were moving too fast, now believe me when i say i like to take it as slow as feels right, im a save myself till 18 but not really till marriage, she and i have barely done anything with any sexual premise. Long story short her parents, mainly her mum, didnt at all like the fact that we kissed or hugged, despite that being completely normal for people who have been dating for a few months and have been in a situationship even longer (also due to her parents)
Either way, her parents have decided that they need to interfere in this for some reason, but instead of actually talking to me like the adults they should be, they’ve taken to trying to make her think that any kind of contact like kissing is for later, personally i dont think that their relationship advice is valid due their own relationship falling apart. (They have been dating since 13, never been in any other relationships)
Even before this they displayed toxic parenting behaviours such as: not allowing her to have any privacy (checking her phone and messages + forcing her to tell them her passcode), involving themselves heavily in her social life, living through her vicariously, ect ect
At this point i feel like im dating her parents and not her.
But this time they decided to offer her an ultimatum, so she gave me two options, either break up with her or have a no contact relationship. I love her so obviously i chose the latter in hopes that it might get better with time, it has since become apparent that it may never go back to how it was.
I need hugs. And since im a guy i dont really have any other way to get them, they are the way that i communicate my love. But even if i tell her i really need a hug, the answer is always the same, “you know the rules” but i cant help feel physically neglected. Despite being in a relationship i cant help but feel alone.
I’m rethinking whether or not its worth it anymore if all im feeling is miserable and neglected. and i dont know what to do.
TL;DR
gf’s parents are puting a strain on relationship and have forbidded physical touch leading to me feeling neglected. Need advice on whether or not to break up with her.