So I’ve just entered a relationship (only two months in) with a guy who is **extremely** attractive. I actually met him because a year ago I saw him on campus and thought he was so good looking I figured I’d ask for his instagram. Well, a year later we began a relationship and have been extremely happy ever since.
He is good at communicating, very attentive, great at sex, funny, he shows that he loves me and honestly, we make a pretty good team. My only issue is that I can’t help but feel insecure whenever we’re out in public or having sex. I’ve never been too good looking (mostly because of my weight and body), I was obese as a child and though I lost the weight, I developed an eating disorder because of it. I was diagnosed with anorexia and was at death’s door a couple of times because of it. Though I recovered and have been doing better ever since, I can’t help but notice I constantly avoid food or over-exercise ever since starting my relationship.
I’ve talked to him about it and he says I’m the most beautiful girl he’s ever seen, he makes me feel loved but when we’re apart I just keep thinking I’m not enough and I’m afraid I’m about to relapse. I don’t know what to do. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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When we say ” You’re the prettiest one ever ” well damn we mean it. I’m pretty sure whenever you send him a snap, or he looks at your post he always express with a smile on his face. Me as a bf never compared my beauty of any sorts with my ex. And I’m pretty sure that’s what most of us do (Not comparing beauty). So, you shouldn’t feel insecure.
It’ll be alright as long as other perspectives are good between you two.
If you keep feeling insecure, you won’t be able to look out for your health at highest level. So, let him treat you like a queen and appreciate it and treat him equal and stay healthy.
My advice is CBT and counselling. The good news is you don’t have a relationship problem. The bad news is what you’re describing is a relapse. Please get some help.
bestie i’m gonna tell u this rn if a man is hot he isn’t gonna date some ugly person, that’s how men are, they’re visual creatures. if he’s hot chances are you are also very hot and just don’t realize it. sounds like you have body dysmorphia, i’m in the same boat, grew up the fat girl and lost the weight once i got into university. i promise you you’re beautiful, our minds are just mean to us sometimes.