So I have social anxiety and I’m trying to work through it. I understand there’s going to be a lot of times where I’m uncomfortable. I have a hard time taking interest in other people. Not that I’m not interested I just don’t know how to show it. This has made it very hard to make friends. I don’t like to ask questions because I feel like I’ll get to personal and that I’m bugging people. They ask me questions and I just give an answer and don’t ask anything back. How do I try and get to know someone without feeling like I’m bugging them.
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You need to face your fears head on. Stop caring about what people might think. Make the move to Genuinely connect with people in real life e.g. ask how they are, their hobbies, interests goals, opinions, etc. Listen and pay attention to what they say. Share those things about yourself when asked. People also subconsciously attach you to the value you bring. The value you bring is a clear, unique, and convincing reason why people will interact with you, let alone do so constantly. So Find ways to add value to their lives. Having In person interactions is the easiest way to stand out from countless people who text or message. People remember and favor in person interactions because of the positive vibes. If your hobbies, skills, talents align with their interests or can help them, bring it up and offer to help them. Finally, learn how to be genuinely busy in your life pursuing your goals and hobbies, while interacting with people on the side. People are hardwired to be repulsed by neediness and desperation and instead gravitate towards those who are self confident and well rounded in life. They want to see active confirmation of you actually doing something in your life other than just talking to them. So chase excellence, not people.